Can't Hurt Me is a manifesto on mental resilience. It challenges the notion that we are limited by our circumstances or physical abilities. By cultivating an unbreakable mindset, you can push through unimaginable hardships and redefine your limits.

The Relentless Pursuit of Mental Toughness

“The most important conversations you’ll ever have are the ones you’ll have with yourself.”

This book emphasizes radical accountability. Goggins believes that no one is responsible for your success or failure but you. Through personal ownership and the will to endure pain, you gain control over your life’s path.

Taking Control of Your Destiny

“We all need small sparks, small accomplishments in our lives to fuel the big ones.”

The key to overcoming challenges is mastering your mind. Goggins argues that the body is capable of enduring much more than we think, but the mind gives up long before our limits are reached. By pushing past mental barriers, you unlock new potential.

1. Mastering the Mind

When your mind tells you that you’re done, you’ve only reached 40% of your actual potential. Pushing through the discomfort leads to growth and endurance far beyond what you thought possible.

2. The 40% Rule

Just like hands get calloused through physical work, the mind can be toughened through hardship and repeated effort. Each time you endure pain or discomfort, your mind becomes more resilient and better equipped to handle adversity.

3. Callousing the Mind

“The only way we can change is to be real with ourselves. If you’re not real and raw, the change will not happen.”

Goggins uses the “Accountability Mirror” as a tool for self-reflection. By writing down your shortcomings and facing them honestly, you can take action to improve yourself. It’s about owning your flaws and pushing yourself to overcome them.

4. Accountability Mirror

In moments of doubt or exhaustion, Goggins recommends reaching into your "cookie jar," which is a mental reserve of all your past accomplishments and struggles you’ve overcome. This helps you draw strength when you need it most.

5. The Cookie Jar Method

“In the cookie jar, I had my failures, successes, my sorrows, and my accomplishments—all the things that make me who I am.”

Fear is often the biggest obstacle standing between you and your goals. Goggins emphasizes pushing through fear by confronting it head-on, rather than avoiding it. Confidence grows with each battle fought against fear.

6. Overcoming Fear and Doubt

Mental toughness comes from discipline, routine, and consistent self-challenge. Goggins shares his journey of turning pain and suffering into strength by adopting a mindset that embraces difficulty rather than running from it.

7. Building an Unbeatable Mindset

Goggins believes that true growth comes from embracing suffering. Pain is inevitable in life, but how you react to it defines you. Rather than avoiding discomfort, lean into it to build greater mental and physical strength.

8. Embracing Pain and Suffering

“Suffering is the true test of life.”

Goggins emphasizes radical accountability. Stop blaming circumstances, other people, or external forces. Accept complete responsibility for your successes and failures, and take control of your destiny.

9. Taking Ownership of Your Life

Life will always throw challenges your way, and the ability to adapt is what separates those who succeed from those who give up. Embracing change, staying flexible, and always pushing forward are the keys to long-term growth.

10. The Power of Adaptability

New York Times Bestseller Over 2.5 million copies sold For David Goggins, childhood was a nightmare - poverty, prejudice, and physical abuse colored his days and haunted his nights. But through self-discipline, mental toughness, and hard work, Goggins transformed himself from a depressed, overweight young man with no future into a U.S. Armed Forces icon and one of the world's top endurance athletes. The only man in history to complete elite training as a Navy SEAL, Army Ranger, and Air Force Tactical Air Controller, he went on to set records in numerous endurance events, inspiring Outside magazine to name him The Fittest (Real) Man in America. In this curse-word-free edition of Can't Hurt Me, he shares his astonishing life story and reveals that most of us tap into only 40% of our capabilities. Goggins calls this The 40% Rule, and his story illuminates a path that anyone can follow to push past pain, demolish fear, and reach their full potential.

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Psychology

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Personal Development

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Motivation & Inspiration

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Problem Solving

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Books

David Goggins is an American ultramarathon runner, ultra-distance cyclist, triathlete, public speaker, and author. He is a retired United States Navy SEAL member who served in the Iraq War.

David Goggins

Can't Hurt Me

Daring Greatly champions vulnerability as the core of human connection and creativity. Contrary to the belief that vulnerability is a weakness, it is actually the birthplace of courage, innovation, and meaningful relationships. When we open up and show our true selves, we create deeper bonds with others.

1. The Power of Vulnerability

Shame is a pervasive emotion that can make us feel unworthy of love and belonging. It thrives in secrecy, silence, and judgment. By bringing shame into the light and speaking openly about it, we strip it of its power and can start healing.

2. Shame and Its Impact

“Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.”

Perfectionism is a shield we use to avoid criticism or rejection. However, striving for perfection leads to paralysis, fear, and disconnection. True courage comes from embracing our imperfections and understanding that vulnerability is key to growth.

3. Embracing Imperfection

Emotional resilience, or what Brown calls “shame resilience,” is the ability to recognize shame when it arises and overcome it by practicing self-compassion, connection, and empathy. The more resilient we become, the more willing we are to take risks and dare greatly in life.

4. Cultivating Resilience

At the heart of Daring Greatly is the need for connection. Human beings are wired for it, but it can only happen when we allow ourselves to be seen as we truly are. Authentic relationships thrive when we let go of the need to control how others see us.

5. The Importance of Connection

Brown applies her research on vulnerability to parenting, emphasizing that it’s not about being perfect parents but about being engaged, present, and open with our children. Creating an environment where kids feel safe to express themselves helps them grow into emotionally healthy adults

6. Parenting with Vulnerability

Many people operate from a mindset of scarcity—believing there is never enough (success, money, love, etc.). This mindset fosters fear, comparison, and disconnection. Brown encourages adopting a mindset of abundance and gratitude to cultivate a sense of worthiness and fulfillment.

7. The Myth of Scarcity

Living wholeheartedly means embracing life with a sense of worthiness, courage, and authenticity. It’s about letting go of the fear of judgment and embracing joy, gratitude, and compassion, even when things feel uncertain or uncomfortable.

8. Wholehearted Living

Much of our struggle with vulnerability stems from the feeling of not being enough—whether it’s smart enough, successful enough, or attractive enough. Daring Greatly challenges us to shift our mindset to one of self-worth, knowing that we are enough as we are, even with our flaws.

9. Being Enough

“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world.”

Vulnerability in leadership creates stronger, more connected teams. Leaders who dare to be open about their mistakes, concerns, and challenges foster trust and collaboration. It’s through vulnerability that leaders inspire creativity and innovation in their teams.

10. Leadership and Vulnerability

One of the book's most empowering ideas is letting go of the fear of failure. Brown encourages us to view failure as part of the learning process, and to recognize that daring greatly means risking falling short, but also gaining the opportunity to grow.

11. Letting Go of the Fear of Failure

Brown emphasizes that choosing courage over comfort is a critical part of daring greatly. Stepping into discomfort, whether it’s in relationships, work, or personal growth, requires vulnerability but is the path to true fulfillment and connection.

12. Courage Over Comfort

“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”

**Now on Netflix as The Call to Courage** 'She's so good, Brené Brown, at finding the language to articulate collective feeling' Dolly Alderton Every time we are faced with change, no matter how great or small, we also face risk. We feel uncertain and exposed. We feel vulnerable. Most of us try to fight those feelings - or feel guilt for feeling them in the first place. In a powerful new vision Dr Brené Brown challenges everything we think we know about vulnerability, and dispels the widely accepted myth that it's a weakness. She argues that, in truth, vulnerability is strength and when we shut ourselves off from vulnerability - from revealing our true selves - we distance ourselves from the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives. Daring Greatly is the culmination of 12 years of groundbreaking social research, across every area of our lives including home, relationships, work, and parenting. It is an invitation to be courageous; to show up and let ourselves be seen, even when there are no guarantees. This is vulnerability. This is daring greatly.

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Mental Health

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Love & Relationships

Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation – Brené Brown Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work. Brené is also a visiting professor in management at The University of Texas at Austin McCombs School of Business. She has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy and is the author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers: The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, Rising Strong, Braving the Wilderness, and her latest book, Dare to Lead.Brené hosts the Unlocking Us Podcast and the Dare to Lead Podcast. Her TED talk – The Power of Vulnerability – is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world with over 50 million views.

Brené Brown

Daring Greatly

The core message is that the present moment is the only reality. Everything else—past and future—is a mental construct. Focusing on the now helps eliminate anxiety and allows for inner peace.

1. Living in the Present Moment

The ego thrives on identification with past regrets and future fears, creating suffering. Detaching from the ego liberates you from this pain.

2. Ego as the Source of Suffering

We often identify with our thoughts, but we are more than just our thinking mind. Recognizing that you are the observer behind your thoughts brings calm and clarity.

3. You Are Not Your Mind

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.”

The “pain-body” refers to accumulated emotional pain. Staying present weakens the pain-body's hold, preventing it from driving negative emotions.

4. The Pain-Body

Accepting life as it is, without resistance, leads to peace. This doesn’t mean passivity but rather embracing reality without unnecessary emotional struggle.

5. Surrender to What Is

“Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists.”

Focusing on the past or future keeps you trapped in dissatisfaction. The only way to truly experience life is by living fully in the present moment

6. Breaking the Cycle of Time

Enlightenment is not about becoming someone new but deeply realizing the present moment. The Now is the doorway to spiritual awakening and true freedom.

7. The Now is the Gateway to Enlightenment

In moments of stillness, you connect with your true self, beyond thought. This inner silence brings strength and wisdom, allowing you to face challenges calmly.

When you are fully present in your relationships, you stop projecting fears and desires onto others. This creates deeper connections based on acceptance and understanding.

9. Mindful Presence in Relationships

Living in the present moment frees you from seeking validation from external sources. The judgments and opinions of others lose their power, allowing you to live authentically.

10. Freedom from External Validation

Accepting the impermanence of life, including death, helps you let go of fear. Embracing life’s fleeting nature allows you to live more fully in the now.

11. Accepting Death as a Part of Life

At the core of the book is the concept of being. True peace comes from simply being present, not striving or worrying, but embracing the moment with full awareness.

12. Finding Peace in Being

To make the journey into the Now we will need to leave our analytical mind and its false created self, the ego, behind. From the very first page of Eckhart Tolle's extraordinary book, we move rapidly into a significantly higher altitude where we breathe a lighter air. We become connected to the indestructible essence of our Being, “The eternal, ever present One Life beyond the myriad forms of life that are subject to birth and death.” Although the journey is challenging, Eckhart Tolle uses simple language and an easy question and answer format to guide us. A word of mouth phenomenon since its first publication, The Power of Now is one of those rare books with the power to create an experience in readers, one that can radically change their lives for the better.

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Philosophy

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Mindfulness

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Meditation

Eckhart Tolle is a teacher, author, and entrepreneur. He is a German-born resident of Canada best known as the author of The Power of Now and A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose. Tolle does not identify with any specific religion, but he has been influenced by multiple spiritual works.

Eckhart Tolle

The Power of Now

The central idea is that how you start your day profoundly affects how the rest of it unfolds. The early hours, especially 5 AM, are when you can focus on self-improvement without distractions. Waking up early gives you the edge in achieving productivity, personal growth, and calm before the world wakes up.

1. Own Your Morning, Elevate Your Life

This powerful morning routine is divided into three segments of 20 minutes each: Move, Reflect, and Grow. The first 20 minutes are for intense exercise to get your body energized. The second is for reflecting, journaling, or meditating to center your mind. The last 20 minutes are for growth—reading, learning, or building skills to grow mentally and spiritually.

2. The 20/20/20 Formula

The first hour after waking is termed "Victory Hour," where you set the tone for the day. This focused time is when the brain is most active, creative, and open to insights. Using this hour wisely is one of the most important steps to achieve personal mastery and success.

3. Victory Hour: The Golden Hour

Personal mastery involves more than just optimizing productivity or material success. True greatness comes from balancing four internal pillars: Mindset (thoughts), Heartset (emotions), Healthset (physical well-being), and Soulset (spirituality). These inner aspects need equal attention for overall life balance and fulfillment.

4. The Four Interior Empires

Building and mastering habits requires patience and a strategic approach. The 5 AM Club breaks this process into a 66-day period: the first 22 days are for destruction of old habits, the next 22 days for installation of new ones, and the final 22 for integration. This phased approach helps ensure long-term behavioral change.

5. The Habit Installation Protocol

Early morning solitude is a gift. It provides clarity and creativity, giving you time to think deeply and recharge. Solitude allows you to plan, reflect, and connect with yourself, which is essential for gaining perspective on your goals and the actions needed to achieve them.

6. The Importance of Solitude

Distractions dilute your potential. By rising early and dedicating the first few hours to personal growth and focused work, you remove yourself from the noise of the world. Limiting distractions and guarding your attention helps you achieve more in less time, giving you a significant edge.

7. Focus on Freedom from Distraction

While the book advocates high performance, it also emphasizes the importance of self-care. Physical fitness, mental health, and personal relationships are as crucial as financial and professional success. Striking this balance ensures a well-rounded, fulfilling life.

8. Balance High Achievement with Well-being

Living an extraordinary life is not just about what you accomplish, but about the impact you leave behind. By practicing the principles of the 5 AM Club, you are not only setting yourself up for personal and professional success but also creating a legacy of wisdom, generosity, and inspiration for others.

9. Longevity and Legacy

Personal transformation doesn’t happen overnight, but through consistent, small actions every day. Getting up early, following the 20/20/20 formula, and committing to growth leads to significant results over time. The key is consistency—small wins accumulated daily lead to lasting change.

10. Small Daily Wins Lead to Big Results

To truly grow, you must push yourself beyond your comfort zone. The discipline to wake up at 5 AM, maintain a strict routine, and engage in self-reflection and physical exercise is tough. However, this discomfort is where real progress happens. Success lies in pushing through what others avoid.

11. Embrace the Uncomfortable

Success and personal mastery aren’t instant. Like the habit installation process, real growth takes time, discipline, and persistence. The 5 AM Club teaches that true mastery comes from a long-term commitment to self-improvement, starting with a structured and intentional morning routine.

12. Mastery Takes Time

Legendary leadership and elite performance expert Robin Sharma introduced The 5am Club concept over twenty years ago, based on a revolutionary morning routine that has helped his clients maximize their productivity, activate their best health and bulletproof their serenity in this age of overwhelming complexity.      Now, in this life-changing book, handcrafted by the author over a rigorous four-year period, you will discover the early-rising habit that has helped so many accomplish epic results while upgrading their happiness, helpfulness and feelings of aliveness.      Through an enchanting—and often amusing—story about two struggling strangers who meet an eccentric tycoon who becomes their secret mentor, The 5am Club will walk you through:<ul><li>How great geniuses, business titans and the world’s wisest people start their mornings to produce astonishing achievements</li><li>A little-known formula you can use instantly to wake up early feeling inspired, focused and flooded with a fiery drive to get the most out of each day</li><li>A step-by-step method to protect the quietest hours of daybreak so you have time for exercise, self-renewal and personal growth</li><li>A neuroscience-based practice proven to help make it easy to rise while most people are sleeping, giving you precious time for yourself to think, express your creativity and begin the day peacefully instead of being rushed</li><li>“Insider-only” tactics to defend your gifts, talents and dreams against digital distraction and trivial diversions so you enjoy fortune, influence and a magnificent impact on the world</li></ul>Part manifesto for mastery, part playbook for genius-grade productivity and part companion for a life lived beautifully, The 5am Club is a work that will transform your life. Forever.

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Productivity

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Habits

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Time Management

Robin Sharma is one of the world’s premier thinkers on leadership, personal growth and life management. The bestselling author of The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari, Who Will Cry When You Die? and The Saint, the Surfer, and the CEO and four other books on self-transformation. Robin Sharma is in constant demand internationally as keynote speaker at the conferences of many of the most powerful companies on the planet including Microsoft, Nortel Networks, General Motors, FedEx and IBM. He is a resident of Ontario, Canada. (Barnes and Noble)

Robin S. Sharma

The 5AM Club

Life is about choosing what you care about. You can’t give a f*ck about everything, and the key to a fulfilling life is figuring out what’s truly worth your attention. Energy is finite, and giving it to things that don’t align with your values will lead to frustration and burnout.

1. Choosing Your F*cks Wisely

Accept that not everything in life will be great. Trying to avoid discomfort or chase endless positivity often leads to unhappiness. True freedom comes from accepting life as it is—messy, unpredictable, and full of setbacks—then choosing to focus on what genuinely matters

2. The Power of Acceptance

Take responsibility for your life and your choices, even when things aren’t your fault. Blaming others strips you of your power to change your situation. The moment you own your circumstances, you reclaim control and can shape your future.

3. Responsibility Over Blame

Failure is inevitable, but it’s also valuable. Instead of fearing it, learn from it. Each failure is a step toward improvement. Success isn’t about avoiding mistakes; it’s about failing well and using each stumble as a stepping stone to grow stronger.

4. Embracing Failure

Remembering that life is finite makes every decision more intentional. When you realize that one day you’ll be gone, it puts into perspective the trivial worries and fears that often consume us. What you choose to care about should add meaning to your limited time.

5. The Certainty of Death

Pain and suffering are unavoidable, but they are also paths to personal growth. Instead of running from pain, lean into it. It’s often the most difficult moments that teach us the most about ourselves and lead to the greatest personal evolution.

6. Pain as a Path to Growth

Not everyone is special, and that’s okay. The constant pressure to be extraordinary can lead to anxiety and depression. Instead of trying to be remarkable at everything, focus on being authentic and real. It’s more rewarding than constantly chasing unrealistic ideals of greatness.

7. The Tyranny of Exceptionalism

Saying no is an essential skill. When you set boundaries and decline what doesn’t serve you, you protect your energy for the things that align with your values. Learning when to say no allows you to focus on what’s truly important in your life.

8. The Value of Saying No

Happiness isn’t about avoiding problems; it’s about solving meaningful ones. Problems are a constant part of life, and the ones you choose to tackle should resonate with your core values. Finding satisfaction in overcoming challenges is what leads to lasting contentment.

9. Happiness Lies in Solving Problems

Stop seeking approval from others. The need for validation will only distance you from your true self. When you live authentically, based on your own values, the opinions of others lose their power. This creates a deeper sense of self-worth and purpose.

10. Authenticity Over Approval

Embrace uncertainty. Certainty limits growth, while questioning and doubt keep you open to new ideas and experiences. Being comfortable with uncertainty allows you to explore new perspectives and learn without being confined by rigid beliefs

11. The Importance of Uncertainty

You can’t control everything. Trying to do so leads to frustration and anxiety. Letting go of control isn’t about passivity but recognizing where your influence ends and being okay with it. This acceptance brings peace and allows you to focus on what you can truly change

12. Letting Go of Control

#1 New York Times BestsellerOver 10 million copies soldIn this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Mark Manson (born 1984) is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries. He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net

Mark Manson

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

Take responsibility for your life. Instead of reacting to external circumstances, focus on what you can control—your actions, attitudes, and responses. Proactivity empowers you to choose your behavior rather than being driven by emotions or external events.

1. Be Proactive

"I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions."

Define your personal vision and goals. Imagine what you want to achieve in life, both personally and professionally. By setting a clear vision of your ideal future, you can ensure your daily actions are aligned with your long-term objectives.

2. Begin with the End in Mind

Prioritize tasks based on importance, not urgency. Focus on what truly matters—activities that contribute to your long-term goals and values. Organize and execute around your priorities rather than getting lost in the chaos of immediate demands.

3. Put First Things First

"The key is not to prioritize what's on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities."

Adopt a mindset of mutual benefit in all interactions. Seek solutions and agreements that are mutually beneficial and satisfying. By focusing on win-win outcomes, you foster trust and collaboration, making relationships more positive and sustainable.

4. Think Win-Win

"Win-win is a belief in the Third Alternative. It's not your way or my way; it's a better way."

Practice empathetic listening. Before expressing your own thoughts or trying to be understood, first seek to understand others. This habit builds deeper relationships and ensures that communication is based on mutual respect and understanding.

5. Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

"Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply."

Leverage the power of teamwork and collaboration. When people work together effectively, their combined efforts create greater results than if they were working separately. Synergy celebrates differences and combines strengths to produce extraordinary outcomes.

6. Synergize

Invest in self-renewal and continuous improvement. To maintain effectiveness, you must regularly renew yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. This balance ensures sustained growth and resilience over time.

7. Sharpen the Saw

"Sharpen the saw means preserving and enhancing the greatest asset you have—you."

Center your life on unchanging principles like integrity, fairness, and honesty, rather than on people, possessions, or emotions. This helps create stability and guides your decisions with consistency and clarity.

8. Develop a Principle-Centered Life

Effectiveness is about balancing the results you want (production) with maintaining and improving the assets that produce those results (production capability). This could mean taking care of your health, nurturing relationships, or improving your skills.

9. Balance Production with Production Capability (P/PC Balance)

The 7 Habits focus on personal transformation through growth. Habits like proactivity, effective planning, and empathetic communication help you adapt to change and continuously improve, allowing you to thrive in a dynamic world.

10. Embrace Change and Growth

"This is more than a book—it's a blueprint for cultivating habits that will transform your leadership, relationships, and personal growth."

The 7 habits of highly effective people is recognised as one of the most influential books ever written. In this seminal work, Stephen R. Covey presents a holistic, integrated, principle-centred approach for solving personal and professional problems. With penetrating insights and pointed anecdotes, Covey reveals a step-by-step pathway for living with fairness, integrity, honesty and human dignity -- principles that give us the security to adapt to change, and the wisdom and power to take advantage of the opportunities that change creates. The 7 Habits have become so famous because they work. From Habit 1: Be Proactive and Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind, millions of People have worked their way through the 7 and found in them a key to transforming their lives. This book has been the key to the success of legions of business leaders and individuals the world over.

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Daring Greatly

The Power of Now

The 5AM Club

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

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