<ul><li>The most effective way to respond to a difficult person is to first observe one's own emotional and physical reactions. </li><li>A common problem that occurs when communicating with difficult people is forgetting the desired goal of the interaction. </li><li>Mentally rehearsing an upcoming conversation with a difficult person can lower one's chance of saying something reactive that will make it worse. </li> </ul>

Key points 📝

Conflicts with difficult people can easily become a vicious cycle when our own reactions escalate the situation. And the more intensified the conflict, the more that we will dread and be stressed by the idea of future interactions.The most effective tool to make sure you aren't escalating a situation is to become adept at pausing and being a keen observer of your own emotional and physical reactions.Even just making a habit of waiting five seconds before speaking when you are in a conflict can help keep you from doing further damage.

1. To de-escalate, learn to master the pause. ⏸️

Another common problem in our interactions with difficult people is that we get distracted by our upset and lose sight of the <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/motivation">goals </a>we are trying to accomplish. When you are forced to interact with someone who is being difficult, it's very easy to get off track and end up leaving the interaction no closer to what we were hoping to accomplish.Instead, remembering what goal you are after—resolving a specific issue, getting an answer to a question, getting clarity on something confusing, putting in an official request for something to be done—can help you make sure that you stay on track.

2. Always keep your desired outcome in mind. 

Difficult people can be particularly adept at throwing us off our game by getting an emotional rise out of us. Just like a musician, actor, or <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/sport-and-competition">athlete </a>is more likely to nail a difficult performance if they have practiced, so too can practice and rehearsal help our most stressful interpersonal moments.Don't be afraid to script a difficult conversation, knowing of course that there will need to be some wiggle room built in. Even better, by rehearsing in advance, you can come up with wording that is less likely to escalate the situation

3. When possible, rehearse in advance. 

Often, the hardest interpersonal interactions are the ones where we take things too personally and feel wounded or insulted by another person's behavior when really it has nothing to do with us at all.Observe your thoughts for distortions that make the situation more about you than it really is, or that needlessly <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/catastrophizing">catastrophize </a>the outcome of a situation. But when a difficult person shows consistent patterns of dysfunction across situations and with different people, there is limited control we can have over their behavior—and it only adds needless worry and heartache to blame ourselves.

4. Don't over-personalize.   

It may be helpful to reflect upon your behavior, especially if you see these patterns of difficult interactions across separate circumstances in your life.Whether you are doing things to escalate the situation or your <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/body-language">body language </a>, tone or wording is making you come across more aggressively than you intended, it may help to try to boost your self-awareness by looking for patterns of your own. And finally, even if it is always the other person being difficult, it can sometimes lessen the frustration to send some empathy their way.

5. A little self-awareness and empathy go a long way. 

When conflict arises, there are ways not to make it worse.

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Personal Development

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Communication

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Love & Relationships

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Teamwork

5 Things to Keep in Mind When Dealing With Difficult People

Not many of us get enough fibre in our diets, writes Bee but an added incentive to increase our intake comes from a study in Journals of Gerontology showing that it helps to slow ageing. All the dietary factors they examined in a cohort of adults aged 50 and older — including a person’s total carbohydrate intake, total fibre intake, glycaemic index of food, — it was the fibre they ate that made the biggest difference to what the scientists called “successful ageing’’. Those who had the highest intake were found to have an almost 80 per cent greater chance of living a long and healthy life.

Get 30g of fibre a day 🍏

In 2020 researchers from the University of Navarra in Pamplona, Spain, warned that eating ultra-processed foods such as ready meals, ice cream, crisps, cakes and processed meats is linked to the accelerated shortening of telomeres, structures located at the ends of our chromosomes that are markers of our biological age, and cell ageing.Of 886 participants over the age of 55, those eating two to two and a half servings of such foods a week were 29 per cent more likely to display signs of accelerated cell ageing, rising to 82 per cent of those consuming more than three servings a week.

Cut out ultra-processed foods 🍨

They are rich sources of lutein, an antioxidant carotenoid that Dr Kara Fitzgerald, a researcher in nutritional biochemistry at the Institute for Functional Medicine in Washington, found to have a profound effect on slowing biological ageing. Other researchers show that a good intake of lycopene, the antioxidant compound that gives tomatoes their red colour, helps to prevent skin ageing, meaning there’s more than one reason to add them to your salads.

Eat tomatoes and peppers🍅🫑

Middle-aged adults who take this sweet spot of walking steps every day are 70 per cent less likely to die at a younger than expected age than those who manage a lower daily total. In the study of 2,110 adults wearing trackers, researchers found that taking more than 10,000 steps a day did nothing to further delay ageing.

Take 7,000 steps a day 🚶

A single night of insufficient sleep can make an older adult’s cells age quicker, according to a study at UCLA presented to the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. Not only that, but poor sleepers feel older and have a worse outlook on ageing, which ultimately affects their health, according to researchers at the University of Exeter who interviewed 4,482 people aged 50 and over about sleep quality and perceived levels of age-related issues such as poor memory, low energy and decreased motivation.

Get seven to nine hours’ sleep a night 😴

Lift weights to preserve muscles and prevent falls, but keep up your cardio for anti-ageing effects. When researchers from Leipzig University compared the effects of running and interval training with weight training on markers of ageing for a study in the European Heart Journal, they found it was the endurance activities that produced a greater increase in telomere length and activity.Professor Ulrich Laufs, said, “telomeres are important for cellular ageing, regenerative capacity and thus, healthy ageing” and “resistance training did not exert these effects”.

Go running or do interval training🏋🏻‍♂️

Staying active throughout life keeps your body young, according to researchers at the University of Birmingham and King’s College London. They found that amateur male and female cyclists aged 55 to 79 who had exercised for most of their lives not only had significantly less loss of muscle mass and strength for their age, but also had an immune system that had defied ageing compared with non-active control participants.

Don’t stop exercising as you get older 🚴🏻‍♂️

Dark berries are a rich source of anthocyanins, the antioxidants that give them their red and purple colour and which have been shown in studies to help to prevent age-related metabolic damage. And a 20-year Harvard study showed that women who ate blueberries at least once a week or strawberries at least twice a week delayed cognitive ageing by up to two and a half years.

Consume a dish of berries every day 🫐🍓

Researchers reporting in the journal Food Chemistry hailed white button mushrooms as potent anti-ageing foods because of their unusually high content of two antioxidants — ergothioneine and glutathione — that have been shown to preserve cellular health. In her study Fitzgerald says all varieties, from shiitake and cordyceps to porcini and oyster mushrooms, “contain valuable nutrients when it comes to preventing biological ageing” and recommends eating them several times a week.

Eat mushrooms several times a week🍄

Research in 2017 by the University of California, San Diego, in the American Journal of Epidemiology, found that women who lived mainly sedentary lives, sitting down for ten hours a day, displayed DNA evidence indicating that they were physically eight years older than women who did at least 30 minutes of physical activity a day.

Aim for at least 30 minutes of physical activity a day 🤾

A diet rich in leafy greens, along with regular exercise and sleep, has been shown to help reverse ageing by two years in just eight weeks, by triggering changes to DNA methylation, a process that affects cell turnover. In Fitzgerald’s study, male participants ate 250g dark leafy greens, 250g cruciferous vegetables such as broccoli or cauliflower, 380g “colourful” vegetables and two beetroots a week. They were also given three servings of liver, up to ten eggs and a probiotic.

Eat more leafy greens, cauliflower and beetroot 🥬

Forget sugar, keep exercising as you get older and overload on ‘colourful’ vegetables and fibre

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Food

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Health

How to stay looking young: 11 things to do

Eat not to dullness; drink not to elevation.

1. Temperance

Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation.

2. Silence

Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time.

3. Order

Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve.

4. Resolution

Make no expense but to do good to others or yourself; i.e., waste nothing.

5. Frugality

Lose no time; be always employed in something useful; cut off all unnecessary actions.

6. Industry

Use no hurtful deceit; think innocently and justly, and, if you speak, speak accordingly.

7. Sincerity

Wrong none by doing injuries, or omitting the benefits that are your duty.

8. Justice

Avoid extreams; forbear resenting injuries so much as you think they deserve.

9. Moderation

Tolerate no uncleanliness in body, cloaths, or habitation.

10. Cleanliness

Be not disturbed at trifles, or at accidents common or unavoidable.

11. Tranquility

Rarely use venery but for health or offspring, never to dullness, weakness, or the injury of your own or another's peace or reputation.

12. Chastity

13. Humility

My intention being to acquire the habitude of all these virtues, I judged it would be well not to distract my attention by attempting the whole at once, but to fix it on one of them at a time; and, when I should be master of that, then to proceed to another, and so on, till I should have gone thro' the thirteen; and, as the previous acquisition of some might facilitate the acquisition of certain others, I arranged them with that view, as they stand above.

How to acquire these virtues, Franklin advised:

WikipediaIn "The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin," we find a list of thirteen virtues "all that at that time occurr'd to me as necessary or desirable."

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Philosophy

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Habits

Benjamin Franklin Thought Everyone Should Possess These 13 Virtues 

It’s about quality rather than quantity.So, what areas of personal growth do you like to improve?Take a look in your vegetable patch and see what’s growing there now. Identify what is serving you and what is holding you back. Nature abhors a vacuum so if you remove those stinging nettles and bindweed, you will make space for strawberries, aubergines, or whatever brings you joy.If you aspire for personal growth, then you have to focus on yourself. Here are five areas of personal growth and how to improve them.

Personal Growth 

The strategies that you have adopted in the past have become your default settings. Many of these learned behaviors were set in stone during childhood, and you unconsciously trust these strategies because they have worked in the past.Self-awareness will help you recognize these knee-jerk reactions. In some cases, you may perceive them to be perfectly appropriate and benign, while in others, you will realize the opposite.The trick is to simply see them as they are, give thanks for what they’ve achieved in the past, and with the clarity you are now experiencing, choose another way.

Self-Awareness

One thing we humans love is control—to be in control. Or, at least, we love the idea of being in control. We tend to link control with safety.The important thing is what we focus on. What is it we want to be in control of? What are we in control of?Answer is, ourselves. Nothing more, nothing less. Of course, external factors are important in our lives, but what’s most important is how we respond to them, how we perceive them, and how much of our power we give to them. All this important work is done inside.If you want to be in control, focus on your thoughts, your beliefs, and your values.

Control

When we allow something that “happens” to disturb our peace, we give away our power. If you let it trigger you negatively, your emotions are like a ship at sea with no engine power.Recognize your emotion—frustration, disappointment, blame, self-pity, or whatever—and focus on it for ten seconds. Acknowledge it, respect it, and let it go. Release it into the ether, and keep your emotional channels clean. Acceptance is the friend of peace. So, if you aspire to improve areas of your personal growth, don’t say “no” to things, say “yes,” accept, and get on with your life.

Acceptance

What we resist persists.

How well do you know yourself?The quote “what other people think of me is none of my business” has been attributed to countless famous people. It can be tempting to compromise who we are for the sake of being accepted by others. If you want to know yourself, you need to dig deep and find your authentic self—the real “you.” Listing your core values is a useful way to start. Consciously knowing your values will ground you, empower you, and enhance your self-confidence.By knowing yourself, you can establish where you are, where you want to be, and how to get there.

Knowing Yourself

“Basic self-confidence has less to do with a high estimation of one’s abilities than with the underlying capacity to express needs and desires without fear of being abandoned as a result.”

Part of the personal growth process of acceptance is to accept what you don’t know.Humans tend to seek solace in knowledge. Indeed, a significant amount of “knowledge” and “certainty” is, in reality, just opinions.To be able to accept what we do not know is a significant step; it allows you to let go and trust, which can remove stress and anxiety. Simply surrendering yourself to whatever is happening and may happen in the future is a liberating experience and when you stop investing energy in futile efforts to “control”, you’ll be amazed at how your physical energy levels will increase.

Not Knowing

Awareness, inner control, acceptance, and true knowledge will enhance your journey to improving different areas of your personal growth. Only by knowing yourself can you grow yourself.

Final Thoughts

If you aspire for personal growth, then you have to focus on yourself.

Personal growth isn't like GDP. It's about quality rather than quantity. Here are 5 areas of personal growth and how you can improve them.

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Mindfulness

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Time Management

The 5 Areas of Personal Growth (And How to Improve Them)

When looking to start a healthy diet, it can be a bit overwhelming. There are so many diet foods to choose from, and the media gives us mixed messages about which foods are healthy constantly. Luckily, a registered dietitian is here to quickly break down the best diet foods for dieters looking to lead a healthy lifestyle. Moreover, I’ll also provide some ideas on how to simply and easily incorporate these foods into your diet.

Healthy Diet 

Nuts have plenty of healthy fats called polyunsaturated and monounsaturated fats and fiber. These nutrients help to provide satiety after a meal and keep dieters full longer.In addition to keeping you full, nuts have also been shown to help improve your health. One study found that nuts helped improve blood glucose control, weight control, and heart health.It’s important that when you are eating nuts, you do so in moderation. The American Heart Association recommends that you consume about four servings of unsalted nuts per week.

Nuts 

When you’re looking to increase your protein consumption, you want to focus on lean sources of protein. This includes things such as chicken breast and lean beef. Lean protein sources exclude items such as beef or pork, which have more saturated fat.In addition to helping you build muscle, protein is actually harder for our body to digest, meaning that we burn more calories in trying to do so. This is referred to as the “thermic effect of food.” Since our body has to work harder to digest lean protein, we end up storing fewer usable calories than if we eat carbohydrates or fat.

Lean Protein

Fish, like chicken breast or lean beef, is a high-protein food that is overall low in fat. While certain fishes, such as salmon, are fattier, these contain healthful fats similar to those found in nuts. The fat in fish also provides other nutrients to the body, such as Omega-3 fatty acids. These fatty acids may help reduce the risk of cardiovascular disease, glaucoma, and various mental health disorders, such as depression and dementia.Fish can also be a great protein source for individuals who follow a plant-forward, Mediterranean, or pescatarian diet.

Fish

Whole grain products are less refined than their counterparts, meaning that they have more nutrients in them. Whole grains provide the body with fiber, which helps keep you feeling full longer and promotes satiety. Fiber can also help lower cholesterol and prevent blood clot formation.These foods also help the body to maintain a steady blood glucose level, which is important for all dieters but especially crucial for those with pre-diabetes or diabetes. These foods also supply the body with various vitamins and minerals, such as iron, Vitamin B, magnesium, zinc, copper, and antioxidants.

Whole Grains

Legumes are a category of vegetable and include items such as green peas, beans, chickpeas, and lentils.According to the American Diabetes Association, regular intake of legumes can lower your risk of type 2 diabetes and improve blood glucose control for those who have already developed this disease. They have also been shown to improve heart health, and research shows that they may improve weight control, which is key for dieters.Some legumes, such as chickpeas and beans, can also serve as a great source of lean protein who are looking to follow a more plant-based, vegetarian, or vegan diet.

Legumes

As we have noted, fiber is an extremely important nutrient for dieters. It can help improve blood glucose stability and improve heart health, all while keeping you full and satisfied after meals. Berries, like nuts and whole grains, are high in fiber. In addition, berries provide our bodies with antioxidants, which are substances that can help prevent cell damage.It is best to consume antioxidants in whole foods rather than supplements, so go ahead and add some berries into your day!If you are still not convinced, check out these other benefits that fresh or frozen berries can provide.

Berries

Kale and spinach are high in Vitamins A, E, C, and K. Other dark leafy greens such as broccoli and mustard greens are high in many of the B-vitamins.Dark leafy greens also provide a high level of antioxidants, which, help prevent cell damage. Antioxidants have been known to help prevent osteoporosis and inflammatory diseases. These greens are also low in calories and carbohydrates, which is helpful for those looking to slim down.

Dark Leafy Greens

Greek yogurt has twice as much protein as regular yogurt, which we’ve already seen is very helpful for those individuals who are dieting. Additionally, greek yogurt has fewer carbohydrates than its regular counterpart.Greek yogurt also provides your body with probiotics, which can help to improve gut health and reduce bloating.When looking for greek yogurt, be sure to choose one that is lower in sugar to prevent the intake of unnecessary calories. Go for an unsweetened yogurt if possible, and add your own toppings such as berries or nuts to give it more flavor.

Greek Yogurt

There are so many healthful foods that many of us are already eating in our daily lives. If you are not eating some of these foods, it is so easy to start!If you’re looking for something a bit simpler, don’t be afraid to grab a handful of nuts as a snack or make some oatmeal for breakfast in the morning. These foods will help keep you full and provide your body with many of the nutrients it needs to help your diet on track.

Conclusion 

If you are looking to start a diet while maintaining a healthy lifestyle, it’s not difficult. 

Which diet foods are the best for you? In this article, a registered dietitian will break down the 8 best diet foods for a healthier body.

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Exercise & Fitness

8 Best Foods for Dieters to Eat Healthily - Lifehack

Time is one of the only commodities we cannot make more of. We often say, “I don’t have time for that today.” But the reality is, “I choose not to give time to that item.” We have to reframe our thinking. How we spend our time is an investment, it is up to us to decide where we put our money. Instead of bemoaning that there are never enough hours in the day, look inward at how you are using the hours you do have. It is self-management, not time-management, that truly maximizes our time

Time management is a myth.

Doing more of everything is not the answer. It is about doing more of the right things. Look at your calendar and surgically dissect the difference between what you could do and the three to four things you must do—the three to four activities that put you on the path to where you want to go. Saying yes to a few great things means saying no to a lot of good things.We are all bound by the same 24 hours in the day. In order to make the most of them, the goal is not to fill every waking moment with work, but rather to be more purposeful and intentional with the time we do spend.

Do more of the right things.

Most of us underestimate what we can do in a year but overestimate what we can do in an hour. We want to be able to say “I can get it done tomorrow”—but we have to be realistic about what is possible.If we constantly give ourselves impossible deadlines, we will feel perpetually behind and frustrated.Give yourself a long enough runway to gain the speed required to take off. As a result, you will be more reliable and less stressed in your life because you are not stuck in a never-ending game of catch-up — you have allocated the proper amount of time for each item and can complete each task.

Set up a winnable game.

We cannot manage time; we can only manage ourselves. 

If you’re tired of doing more every day but never feeling like you did enough, I have some solutions. But we first have to take responsibility. We cannot manage time; we can only manage ourselves. 

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Productivity

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Entrepreneurship

What Would You Do with an Extra Hour in Your Day?

What your mental strength is what your attitude will be towards the innumerable hindrances and obstacles that are likely to come in your way in life.You can either live life one day at a time or plan elaborately for a distinct near future, but for all of that you need to develop a mental strength that would keep you rock solid no matter what surprises life throws at you.

Mental strength: How to boost it?

Psychologists define it as the measure of resilience when a certain individual braves adversity.Every individual exhibits a certain type of attitude while facing a difficult situation and that attitude entails mental strength.Negative turns in life events, crisis, financial issues, environmental factors are few of the unavoidable hindrances faced by every human being.The degree by which these negative incidents affect varies from individual to individual and the way a person responds to these effects is what constitutes mental strength.

What is mental strength?

In order to boost mental strength, one needs to adopt a psychological exercise. This involves understanding core beliefs, figuring out the strengths and weaknesses, creating extra space for positive thoughts, knowing a proper way to channel emotions, and observing daily activities.Always use mental energy judiciously in order to boost mental strength. "Wasting brain power ruminating about things you can’t control drains mental energy quickly. The more you think about negativity that you can’t solve, the less energy you’ll have leftover for creative endeavour" an article in Forbes.

How to boost mental strength?

Mental energy should be used for productive tasks. For example, try to find a long forgotten hobby or leisure activity that you had interest in during school days. When your thoughts are not productive, try to distract it towards the hobby. A hobby engages your mind no matter how stressed you are, because it is something that you love doing.

How to use mental energy?

Though self-isolation is the need of the hour due to rising cases of Omicron, it is not isolation literally. Though one is confined within four walls to stop the spread of the virus, one can always reach out to people virtually. Make the most use of the internet. Participate in group interactions, share your ideas, discuss on varied topics, and gain positive insights.

Interact, don't isolate

Do not stop reading, no matter how difficult it is for you to concentrate. Reading books on self development will not only give your insights on coping with stress, it will also make you aware of various facts that can actually productively boost your mental health. The time engaged in reading can never go in vain.

Read, read, read

What your mental strength is what your attitude will be towards the innumerable hindrances and obstacles that are likely to come in your way in life. You can either live life one day at a time or plan elaborately for a distinct near future, but for all of that you need to develop a mental strength that would keep you rock solid no matter what surprises life throws at you.

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Mental Health

Expert approved ways to improve your mental strength  | The Times of India
			

The Japanese concept, which translates as " the happiness of always being busy".According to the Japanese,everyone has an ikigai - French philosopher might call a raison d'être(purpose). Having a clearly defined ikigai brings satisfaction, happiness, and meaning to our lives. The purpose of this book is to help you find yours, and to share insights from Japanese philosophy on the lasting health of body, mind and spirit.

IKIGAI

There is village in south of Japan named Okinawa, where there are 24.55% people over the age of 100 for every 100,000 inhabitants - far more than global average.Is ikigai the reason there are more centenarians in Okinawa than anywhere else?  How does it inspire people to stay active until the very end? What is the secret to a long and happy life?The purpose of the book is to bring the secrets of Japan's centenarians to you and give the tools to find your own ikigai.

Book's Intention

One of the most common sayings in Japan is “Hara hachi bu,” which is said before or after eating and means “Fill your belly to 80 percent.” This is why stop eating when  stomachs reach 80 percent of capacity, rather than overeating and wearing down bodies with long digestive processes that accelerate cellular oxidation.The way food is served is also important. By presenting their meals on many small plates, the Japanese tend to eat less. Having five plates in front of you makes it seem like you are going to eat a lot.

The 80% Secret

Whether threats we perceive are real, stress is an easily identifiable condition that not only causes anxiety but is also highly psychosomatic, affecting everything from digestive system to skin.The central premise of this stress-reduction method is focusing on the self: noticing our responses, even if they are conditioned by habit, in order to be fully conscious of them.In this way, we connect with the here and now and limit thoughts that tend to spiral out of control.One way to reach a state of mindfulness is through meditation, which helps filter the information that reaches us.

Be mindful about reducing stress

Spending too much time seated at work or at home not only reduces muscular and respiratory fitness, also increases appetite and curbs the desire to participate in activities.Being sedentary can lead to hypertension, imbalanced eating, cardiovascular disease, and even certain kinds of cancer. We can access a more active lifestyle that makes us feel better inside and out - we just have to add a few ingredients to our everyday habits:<ul><li>Walk to work</li><li>Use your feet instead of an elevator</li><li> Participate in social /leisure activities</li><li>Replace your junk food with fruit</li><li>Get the right amount of sleep</li></ul>

A lot sitting will age you

What do Japanese artisans, engineers, Zen philosophy, and cuisine have in common? Simplicity and attention to detail.It is not a lazy simplicity but a sophisticated one that searches out new frontiers, always taking the object, the body and mind, or the cuisine to the next level, according to one’s ikigai.When someone sets out to create something, his/her responsibility is to use nature to give it “life” while respecting that nature at every moment. During this process, the artisan becomes one with the object and flows with it.It's not man versus nature, but rather a union of the two.

Sophisticated simplicity

Ask yourself these questions:<ul><li>What do the activities that drive you to flow have in common?</li><li>Why do those activities drive you to flow? For example, are all the activities you most like doing ones that you practice alone or with other people?</li><li>Do you flow more when doing things that require you to move your body or just to think?</li></ul>In the answers to these questions you might find the underlying ikigai that drives your life. If you don’t, then keep searching by going deeper.Also, try new things that are not on the list of what makes you flow but that are similar and that you are curious about.

Using flow to fing your ikigai

Both Buddhism and Stoicism remind us that the present is all that exists, and it is the only thing we can control. Instead of worrying about the past or the future, we should appreciate things just as they are in the moment, in the now.We should never forget that everything we have and all the people we love will disappear at some point.Being aware of the impermanence of things does not have to make us sad; it should help us love the present moment and those who surround us.“All things human are short-lived and perishable,” Seneca tells us.

The here and now, and the impermanence of things

As Nicholas Taleb explains "we use the word fragile to describe people, things that are weakened when harmed, and the words robust and resilient for things that are able to withstand harm without weakening, but we don’t have a word for things that get stronger when harmed". Taleb proposes the term antifragile.“Antifragility is beyond resilience or robustness. The resilient resists shocks and stays the same; the antifragile gets better.”Catastrophes and exceptional circumstances offer good models for explaining antifragility.

Beyond resilience: Antifragility

Wabi-sabi is a Japanese concept that shows us the beauty of the fleeting, changeable, and imperfect nature of the world around us. Instead of searching for beauty in perfection, we should look for it in things that are flawed, incomplete.Japanese concept is that of ichi-go ichi-e , which could be translated “This moment exists only now and won’t come again.” It is heard most often in social gatherings as a reminder that each encounter is unique and will never be repeated, meaning that we should enjoy the moment and not lose ourselves in worries about the past or the future.

Wabi-sabi and ichi-go ichi-e

<ul><li>Stay active; don’t retire.</li><li>Take it slow.</li><li>Don’t fill your stomach.</li><li>Surround yourself with good friends.</li><li>Get in shape for your next birthday. </li><li>Smile.</li><li>Reconnect with nature.</li><li>Give thanks.</li><li>Live in the moment.</li><li>Follow your ikigai.</li></ul>There is a passion inside you, a unique talent that gives meaning to your days and drives you to share the best of yourself until the very end. If you don’t know what your ikigai is yet, as Viktor Frankl says, your mission is to discover it.

The ten rules of ikigai

What is the best way to live longer? Here are a few factors within your control

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Science & Nature

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Longevity

How To Live A Long Life

The book brings out the purpose or how to continue even without purpose with doing the mundane tasks like walking, doing dishes, cleaning house and many more things that will keep us busy and helps us enjoy life, whilst we search for our purpose. Because those who discover their ikigai have everything they need for a long and joyful journey through life.

Los Angeles Times bestseller • More than 1.5 million copies sold “If hygge is the art of doing nothing, ikigai is the art of doing something—and doing it with supreme focus and joy.” —New York Post Bring meaning and joy to all your days with this internationally bestselling guide to the Japanese concept of ikigai (pronounced ee-key-guy)—the happiness of always being busy—as revealed by the daily habits of the world’s longest-living people. *And from the same authors, don’t miss The Book of Ichigo Ichie—about making the most of every moment in your life.* * * * What’s your ikigai? “Only staying active will make you want to live a hundred years.” —Japanese proverb According to the Japanese, everyone has an ikigai—a reason for living. And according to the residents of the Japanese village with the world’s longest-living people, finding it is the key to a happier and longer life. Having a strong sense of ikigai—the place where passion, mission, vocation, and profession intersect—means that each day is infused with meaning. It’s the reason we get up in the morning. It’s also the reason many Japanese never really retire (in fact there’s no word in Japanese that means retire in the sense it does in English): They remain active and work at what they enjoy, because they’ve found a real purpose in life—the happiness of always being busy. In researching this book, the authors interviewed the residents of the Japanese village with the highest percentage of 100-year-olds—one of the world’s Blue Zones. Ikigai reveals the secrets to their longevity and happiness: how they eat, how they move, how they work, how they foster collaboration and community, and—their best-kept secret—how they find the ikigai that brings satisfaction to their lives. And it provides practical tools to help you discover your own ikigai. Because who doesn’t want to find happiness in every day? A PENGUIN LIFE TITLE

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Motivation & Inspiration

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INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER • 1.5 MILLION+ COPIES SOLD WORLDWIDE “Workers looking for more fulfilling positions should start by identifying their ikigai.” ―Business Insider   “One of the unintended—yet positive—consequences of the [pandemic] is that it is forcing people to reevaluate their jobs, careers, and lives. Use this time wisely, find your personal ikigai, and live your best life.” ―Forbes Find your ikigai (pronounced ee-key-guy) to live longer and bring more meaning and joy to all your days. “Only staying active will make you want to live a hundred years.” —Japanese proverb   According to the Japanese, everyone has an ikigai—a reason for living. And according to the residents of the Japanese village with the world’s longest-living people, finding it is the key to a happier and longer life. Having a strong sense of ikigai—where what you love, what you’re good at, what you can get paid for, and what the world needs all overlap—means that each day is infused with meaning. It’s the reason we get up in the morning. It’s also the reason many Japanese never really retire (in fact there’s no word in Japanese that means retire in the sense it does in English): They remain active and work at what they enjoy, because they’ve found a real purpose in life—the happiness of always being busy. In researching this book, the authors interviewed the residents of the Japanese village with the highest percentage of 100-year-olds—one of the world’s Blue Zones. Ikigai reveals the secrets to their longevity and happiness: how they eat, how they move, how they work, how they foster collaboration and community, and—their best-kept secret—how they find the ikigai that brings satisfaction to their lives. And it provides practical tools to help you discover your own ikigai. Because who doesn’t want to find happiness in every day?

Hector Garcia was born in Spain in 1981 and has been living in Tokyo since 2004. During his spare time he writes aGeekinJapan.com, one of the most widely-read blogs in the world in Spanish and in English, as well as books about his experiences in Japan. He is the author of the bestsellers: Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life and A Geek in Japan. You can find more of Hector's musings at ageekinjapan.com

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Francesc Miralles Contijoch is a Catalan writer, essayist, translator, and musician.

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