We fear often to the things we know something might bad will happen. We tend to visualize in our mind that if it goes this way, maybe this way will turn out this way.But what if I tell you that it is all wrong? because what you are thinking is just a fragments of a puzzled thoughts, not a certain reality that you think can happen in the future. If you see a man is being rude inside the restaurants because it's taking too long to get his order, you also might feel irritated because of his actions or the service in the restaurant. But did you also think, what else can you do?

For them is not for you

The state of caring too much is connected through your emotions. Without a concise understanding and broad perception about the things around you, you might fall into the trap of being a 'play victim' role.What else can you do? at the end of the day, that man who waited for a long time for his order will go home with a food on his stomach, and if you let the 'play victim' role controls you, you will go home with the hatred on your heart and mind, without that man knowing you care for him all along. You care on his actions, without realizing it is just a waste of your time and energy.

Comprehension

Stop caring, unless it's necessary. We often care in other person's life, but we have to realize that not every math formulas can solve how to tie a shoes. Meaning it is really simple, but we are just making it complicated. Think about it, you have an upcoming exams tommorow and you didn't review that much because you don't understand what your teacher is saying in front of the class. So you blame him for the rest of the night and the next day you also blame him for not getting a good score on your exams.

'Play Victim'

Some of you might say, it is really that teacher's fault why I fail the class. But, what else can you do? now you are in the state of 'play victim' where you will make thousands of reasons just to satisfy your ego, without realizing that the only solution is to study.What if you care less on that teacher and just focus on studying some of the lessons you find hard to deal with. Then the next day, you might find the right answer, and that way you have the chance to get a good score on your exams. It all boils down into your choice.

Wu Wei from the Chinese concept "effortless action" or "doing nothing" and it is used to practice for the state of stoicism Patience, acceptance, and adaptation﻿These are the main 3 things to master the art of letting things happen, let's understand how it works and why it can change your life.

Wu Wei: The Effortless Action

Nothing greatness will come to the things that is done rapidly. All things takes time, such as a caterpillar needed a month of time to fully develop into a butterfly, bees needed several months to make full jar of honey, and a tree seed needs years to grow for us human to breathe air.Patience is vital for a human to acquire. In today's world where our attention span is getting lower, we need to realize all things worthwhile takes time. If you distract yourself everyday with short-term reward, you might find yourself at the end regretting the things you should've done that matters the most.

Patience

Focus on what is happening right now, as you are reading this, you can't change the text I type in this post, neither do I, I can't control the way you should understand what I want to show the world by making this post. Acceptance is the choice. Accept that it turns out that way, the things you did in the past. The life you have is different from me and to others. In that way, you will find yourself in a state of peace where nothing and no one can bother you, because you understand you can't control it. Don't react upon it, unless it's necessary. Find what's worth reacting for.

Acceptance

We can't grow if we don't change, trees falls its leaves to grow another beautiful life saver (Leaves releases oxygen). If you don't change, you will be in the same path where there is no growth to grasps on. Adapt through people, environment and to your surroundings. But don't change your true personality, just go with the flow and change what's necessary for you to change. But if you are not really into eating a pineapple on pizza, just tell them and make them to understand what are the things you can't do and you don't want to do.

Adaptation

The only thing you can control is your reaction. Not your mind. You can't control your thoughts, perhaps you might think I can control it by saying "no" to my thoughts, but it will just build resistance to you. If you just don't react to your thoughts and let it be, then it will not exist into the reality. For example, if you think of eating that apple on the table, if you just don't eat the apple, the apple will not be eaten. It is that simple. Find a way to realize reaction is important.

Let things happen on its own

It might seem difficult not to care for all the things that is going on around you. I'm not telling you not to care from all of it, just think about what are the things that really matters, and say to yourself. What else can I do?

Conclusion

Worrying is like a paying debt you don't owe

Dealing with the world is a tough battle, or perhaps you just worry too much about the things you shouldn't really have to care about. Let's dive in into realizing how letting things happen can help you grow as a better person, and have a healthy mindset to cope to any challenges.

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Personal Development

The Art of Letting Things Happen

Our brain is responsible through all the actions we take. The thoughts we think, the decisions we make, into habits we develop. However, when it comes to our problems, we blame ourselves, not knowing that we are letting our mental battle dictates our fortune. We often put ourselves into " external locus of control " in which thinking that external forces brings troubles into our lives, but this is not always the case. It's all about our mental battle, it's the battle againts your brain vs. you.

Introduction

Stress is the brain response into difficult situations. It is a state of worry and emotional tension in which causes by certain triggers or undesireable events that our brain feels it can't be control. It has 3 levels that indicates its presence, these are:• Low level: Your brain is calm and relaxed• Moderate: "Fight or Flight" response and changes in certain behaviors• High level: Changes in mental and physical health and overall behavior

What is stress?

Pressure is part of stress and mental health problems. It is a force feeling that our brain react through difficult situations, especially to the things we can't control. Most of the time, the feeling of having pressure leads to negative effects in our mental health, these includes:• Fear and anxiety• Depression• Trauma• Lost of interest and unproductivity• Mental disorder, if not treated as soon as possible

What is pressure?

Stress and pressure have relations to each other, they are both in mental battle in which stress can be control through self treatment while pressure needs self investigation, meaning it can't be control. Stress is made by our mental worries, thoughts or negative feelings that is sometimes we think is true, but just creating a false vision by our brain. It is a brain natural response, aka human nature.Pressure is made by external factors, such as social relationships, financial obligations, plans for the future or self-judgment. Meaning it has a cause that is needed to be fix, not by your own.

Stress and Pressure : Similarities and Comparison

In physics, stress is exerted in certain objects to change its internal structure while pressure is exerted through external that causes objects to form nor destroyed.We can handle stress by tolerating it as part of our development. We need adaptation to certain events to make our body and mind response accordingly. Stress of homework? try seeing yourself in the future when you finally graduated.Handling pressure might be challenging, but by self-observance we can release its tension to lessen its impact. Tired of others expectations? try realizing nobody is perfect, acceptance will help.

Handling your Mental Battle

Blaming yourself won't help, neither blaming others. Take accountability to fix it. The following bullets can help you lessen your mental rampage:• Acceptance you can't control all the things around you. Dolphin can't swim in land, neither eagle can't fly under the ocean. But they see the same beauty of nature. Let it be.• Take it step by step, don't force things to happen, if you know you shouldn't be, do it gradually. You can't eat a whole burger in a single bite, once you do, you'll have trouble digesting it.• Express your feelings, don't surpress it. Free yourself from this burden emotions

What to do when you are already experiencing it now

It is uncomfortable for the brain to experience problems, that's why you feel often tired, unmotivated or have no drive when you are already in 'that' trouble situations. It's all about how your perception, the things you feel you can't control should be place into " Let it be " outcomes. Replacing bad habits will not guarantee but take gradual actions and acceptance will solve it naturally, you need to be mindful on your own decisions. Fix it one step at a time.

Understanding Mental Battle

Know thy self, know thy enemy. A thousand battles, a thousand victories.

Understanding the concepts between stress and pressure, their differences and similarities. How to handle these two are also included in this topic with the help of research to make the sources reliable.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Mental Health

Stress vs. Pressure (Mental Battle)

Meaning: Ego is the sense of your self worth, it is part of your personality that gives awareness of how important you are to any and every kind of situation. For example: I'm hungry, I want something to eat but the served foods in the cafeteria isn't healthy. I should eat at home instead. In this example, you realized your self-worth, you want something better to yourself so you won't do the things that will ruin your "ego" even if you craves it (hunger)

Understanding Ego

Every person has ego inside of them, some people perceive this as a bad characteristics because on how society tells them. But in reality, they are forcedly for your own good and described as an ability of your self-awareness. But most of the people use it excessively, this is where it comes to the part of being egotistic. Which means tolerating one's behavior even if it can hurt someone, because you have a high standard to yourself, knowing that you are right all the time and you would not agree to every one's opinions. This is where the ego misunderstood by most of us.

Understanding Ego (Part 2)

You have an upcoming quiz tommorow, and one of your friend is borrowing your reviewer because he didn't written any notes from the past lectures. You know to yourself when you give it to him, you are the one who will fail the quiz and when that happens you might even get low grades and make your parents mad.Others may think it's the best decision not to give it, because it is for yourself, but how about that other person? who will fail the quiz? surely they will say " it's his fault because he didn't take any notes " and that's the most obvious reason why ego comes in to our life. To survive

If ego was good, then why being selfish is bad?

You didn't choose to give the reviewer, your brain does. It is in the state of " I need to survive, and it is for my own sake " situation. That's why some people are being selfish because they think it's for themselves who deserve that "thing", not knowing they are driven by their desires to survive.

Interpretation of Ego

If the person says " I'm the most handsome/pretty person in this room " they actually means that " I want everyone to like me, it makes me feel confident ", and when that confidence comes, it connects to yourself, knowing you stand the most in front of the crowd. Which also means " I want everyone to like me in order for me to like myself, if I like myself, I will do good for myself ".

Interpretation of Ego (Part 2)

Ego drives you to become the best or better in every kind of situations Confidence drives you to appreciate who you are with a calm action and proper self decisions

Ego vs. Confidence

It takes a lot of time to build confidence, that's is why it is differ from Ego. Ego is just like eating a sugar to make you feel happy, a short term goodness. Confidence is calm, knowing who you truly are, it's like trying to catch a fish in the sea. You are not aware what you might catch, but you are sure it is a fish.

Building Confidence

Every individual might think that ego is a bad traits you can have, but no. It is also important for you to have this, because as I've mentioned it is to know your self-worth, but over excessive using it may cause harm to yourself and to others. That's why we need a proper way to maintain it in a standard level. You need to become aware of some of these:• Becoming aware of judgment• Arrogance is part of the ego, same as pride, entitlement and beliefs• Ego is an attitude, and it can be change.• Practice humbleness, know what's your limit in every action• Respect is the greatest option.

How to maintain Ego, not destroying it.

You will always lose, if you think the world owes something to you. You are not entitled to anything.

These are a few notions, thoughts, and actual viewpoints about the term "ego". Accept the challenge of fully comprehending every single word that is said.

Understanding "Ego"

"Our fate lives within us, you only have to be brave enough to see it "

" Some people are worth melting for "

"I am bad and that's good, I will never be good and that's not bad. There's no one I'd rather be, than me."

"When life gets you down, you know what you gotta do? Just keep swimming. "

" Ohana means family, family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. "

"If you only do what you can do, you'll never be more than you are now. "

"Laughter is timeless . Imagination has no age. Dreams are forever. "

"Ferb, I know what we're gonna do today! "

"Oh yes, the past can hurt. But from the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it. "

"Nothing's gonna come out on your closet anymore to scare you alright, Goodbye boo. "

The Disney characters listed below can teach you some valuable lessons. Bring back the fond memories!

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Disney Characters Quotes

Instead of : Caring too much what other people think of you Try to : Realize that you can't control them. How they think, move and react to certain things. It is just waste of your energy. It is better to: Look upon yourself, when you do something wrong, that doesn't mean that it defines who you are, what you think to yourself is far more better, only you can understand you.

Instead of vs. Try to

Instead of : Worrying and being anxious Try to : Let it be, it is what it is, the only way to change the future is changing the present moment, so focus on the present moment. While the past is a lessons, don't let it ruin your plans in the future. It is better to : Not take anything personally, everything is temporary, and what I mean by temporary is the short term goals you are willing to take. Long term goals may lasts longer so it is better to focus on them.

Instead of : Not satisfied with your character, body and mindset Try to : Realize that you get influenced by the people around you, observe if its truly you or you are just seeking validation from others. It is better to : Gradually accept your flaws and change for the better, for your future. If it's not who you trully want to be, then why are you settling in that kind of behavior. Be inspired by other people, but don't copy them, you have your own uniqueness. You are a different hero, or a villain, in your own story.

Instead of : Envy, arrogance and feeding your ego Try to : Accept that we are all humans. We have different perspective in life, what's good to you may not really good to others. It is better to : Be contented to what you have, someone out there wants to be you, or want something from you, it is just the reflection of who they are. Be humble and be kind.

Instead of : Not having patience Try to : Calm down and take a step back for a moment. Realize that everyone is facing their own battle. What's for you, will be grant for you, everything that comes easily will go easily. It is better to : Realize that everyone has their own timeline, you are not living in the same roof as them or eating the same meal, seeing the same things. Think what you truly wanted and work for it, be consistent to it. Your time will come soon.

Instead of : Overthinking Try to : Observe your thoughts, it isn't real, how you react to it, is real. It is better to : Become aware about your thoughts, don't react to it. Let it be, don't suppress yourself but rather accept that you can't control your thoughts, what you can control is your reaction. Be mindful of your own mind.

Instead of : Regrets and doubts Try to : Trust yourself once again, everyone deserves a second chance, so do you. It is better to : Forgive yourself and others, unleash the hatred in your heart that is holding you back from what you wanted in life, don't let that feelings controls you or hold you back. Take accountability, forgive and believe.

Do not disturb yourself by imagining your whole life at once.

You have the ability to transform some of these undesirable traits into positive attributes. Remind yourself to modify your true desires for yourself and accept those shortcomings.

The Art of Letting Things Happen

Stress vs. Pressure (Mental Battle)

Understanding "Ego"

Disney Characters Quotes

Instead of vs. Try to

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