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Why Self-Help Books Don't Work (And How To Nevertheless Benefit From Them)



Why Self-Help Books Don't Work (And How To Nevertheless Benefit From Them)
There is a lot of criticism on self-help books, especially that they don't live up their promise. Learn why and, more importantly, how you can make them work by reading them in a different way.


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Types of self-help books

Types of self-help books

Today, there are at least a couple of self-help books for each issue a person might have. However helpful these try to be, there are still a lot of individuals who criticize them and who divide them into four categories, as follows:

  • the books that provide wrong advice - the so-called bad effect self-help books
  • the books that help people simply because these ones pay more attention to things they had not taken into account before- the placebo effect self-help books
  • the books that have no effect on people - no effect self-help books.




Learn to read self-help books

The issue with reading self-help books is that not everybody is willing to apply what is written within the pages of those very books. However, if you are to spend time reading a book, why not trying to understand and follow its advice?

One sure way to do this is by the so-called reading technique 'lectio divina' that implies reading really slowly and repeatedly the same text until you actually understand its benefits and why it could change your life for the better. Give it a try and you might just be amazed by the result.




Working with a co-worker you don't like

Working with a co-worker you don't like

We don't get to pick our coworkers. Sometimes we end up with a coworker we don't like.

While you can find ways to avoid them, it doesn't solve your problem.

An empathy opportunity

There is potential value in considering another's point of view. It is an opportunity to practice empathy.

Every relationship takes work. Spouses get on each other's nerves, and friends annoy each other. But with these relationships, you mostly give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Next time, ask yourself what about this experience can help you grow. It forces you to look for the positive in a negative situation.

Growth moments: What you gain by not avoiding problems

There are moments you want to run away, but they are often the moments when you should stay and work through the situation. They are your growth moments.

Those who can figure out how to work with difficult people are the ones people want to be around. When you are liked, you gain influence.

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