Miri Swift's Key Ideas from Sociopath
by Anna Bell

• Don't blame yourself!
• reclaim your person
• seek professional help if necessary
• become aware of how they work, research their thinking and behaviour
• refuse to succumb to their manipulation
• don't share personal information or opinions, these are the tools they use to manipulate you
• know your strengths and weaknesses, as they will try to use them against you
• heed your instincts, red flags are red flags
• drop all contact, if possible
• rebuild the relationships you ended due to the manipulations of the sociopath
• have a circle of trust and confide your story
• allow yourself a fresh start

You will never change them!

• Break off all contact.
• Give them no reason to hope that you will change your mind.
• Don't provoke them by countering what they say, pay attention but don't fall for their deceptions and manipulations. In time, they may lose interest.
• Don't try to argue or use logic. They will twist your words, logic is a foreign concept to them.
• Apply the Gray Rock Method where you deliberately act unresponsive or unengaged so they will lose interest.
• Manipulate them by pretending to care where it doesn't matter, use reverse psychology.
• Become a strong and unreceptive individual, they prefer weak and easy prey.

• Acknowledge the reality that you are the victim of a sociopath, allow the pain that comes with it.
• Surround yourself with people who care about you and understand your experiences.
• Resume any friendships and hobbies you may have given up.
• Reach out to new opportunities: build new friendships, take on a new job, start a new hobby.
• Trust people who have your welfare in mind.
• Practice mindfulness.
• Find what you are grateful for.
• Focus on a positive future.
• Do things that you love.
• Enjoy your life.
• Live!