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The 5 wounds of the soul

According to Lise Bourbeau, inner demons stem from five core wounds associated with parental influence:

  • Rejection
  • Abandonement
  • Humiliation
  • Betrayal
  • Injustice

The physical manifestation of these masks can be observed in the body. To cope with the pain, people adopt mask personalities such as:

  • Withdrawal
  • Dependence
  • Masochism
  • Control
  • Rigidit

Each mask have their own origin, characteristics, greatest fears and greatest needs.

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The REJECTION wounds: adopt the “Withdrawal” mask

The REJECTION wounds: adopt the “Withdrawal” mask

Origine: even before birth (often an unwanted pregnancy) 

Concerned parent: the same-sex parent

Personality:

  • feels worthless and has low self-esteem.
  • often feel misunderstood
  • prefer loneliness (don’t like to draw attention to themselves and are afraid to bother or bore others)
  • feeling that their existence is a burden to others
  • May suffer from sexual difficulties
  • Don’t care much about the material world but value the intellectual world instead. 

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Their fear, need and body type

Greatest fear and need:

Their greatest fear is panic whereas their greatest need is establishing a sense of belonging

Body Type:

Tense and small body with asymmetrical parts

Tendency to suffer from anorexia, skin problems, diarrhea, arrhythmia, cancer,..

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The ABANDONNEMENT wounds: adopt the “Dependent” mask

The ABANDONNEMENT wounds: adopt the “Dependent” mask

Origine: ages of 1 to 3 (as they are deprived of good enough nourishment and support in their love-affection) 

Concerned parent: the same-sex parent. 

Personality:

  • cause drama to attract attention
  • want people to feel sorry for them. 
  • Good at social life and close relationships. 
  • can act as the victim or the savior to attract more attention. 
  • talk about themselves a lot
  • doesn’t like to make decisions on their own
  • have emotional ups and downs. 

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Their fear, need and body type

Greatest fear and need:

Their greatest fear is loneliness and their greatest need is attention

Body Type:

Long and thin with weak legs, a curved back and big sad eyes.

May suffer from back problems, asthma, bronchitis, migraines, low blood sugar, diabetes, agoraphobia,..

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The HUMILIATION wounds: adopt the “Masochist” mask

The HUMILIATION wounds: adopt the “Masochist” mask

Origine: between the ages of one to three ( after experiencing sensual pleasures)

Concerned Parent: the primary caregiver who most of the time happens to be the mother. 

Personality:

  • finds pleasure in suffering
  • Trouble to express feelings because afraid to be shamed
  • repress their impulses in sex and food. 
  • feeling limitless and can feel inferior, unworthy and dirty.
  • afraid of getting punished if they enjoy themselves too much. 
  • according to them being free is being boundaryless and overindulging in pleasure. 
  • believe that they need to sacrifice themselves. 

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Their fear, need and body type

Greatest fear and need:

Their greatest fear is freedom and ironically their greatest need is freedom as well

Body Type:

Usually chubby or fat with round, innocent eyes, store tension in their neck, throat, jaw, and pelvis

May suffer from problems with the back, shoulder, throat, respiratory system,...

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The BETRAYAL wounds: adopt the “Controller” mask

The BETRAYAL wounds: adopt the “Controller” mask

Origine: ages of two to four (Due to unresolved Oedipus complex: felt manipulated or betrayed because their phallic expectations weren’t fulfilled)

Concerned parent: the opposite sex. 

Personality:

  • has a responsible, strong and demanding personality.
  • opinionated, jump to conclusions quickly 
  •  good at lying, manipulating and seducing others. 
  • cares a lot about their reputation
  • impressed by famous and rich people, and seek to be special/important as well.
  • don’t trust easily, especially the opposite sex. 
  • don’t like to disclose their weaknesses. 
  • position themselves as being very independent 

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Their fear, need and body type

Greatest fear and need:

Their greatest fear is dissociation and denial and their greatest need is freedom

Body type:

Their bodies look thick, intense and seductive eyes.

May suffer from diarrhea, sexual impotence and paralysis

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The INJUSTICE wound: adopt the “Rigid” mask

The INJUSTICE wound: adopt the “Rigid” mask

Origin: between the ages of four to six (When parent is harsh, cold and critical)

Concerned parent: the same sex parent

Personality:

  • perfectionists
  • don’t like to ask for help or admit that they are in trouble.
  • can act cold, insensitive, envious and angry
  • knowledge is more important than feelings
  • don’t like to feel and show their sensitive side
  • always optimistic and dynamic even when they are sad and tired.
  • hate admitting they are sick
  • have a tendency to engage in self-sabotage
  • have very extreme demands from themselves

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Their fear, need and body type

Greatest fear and need:

The greatest fear of the rigid is coldness and the greatest need is freedom

Body Type:

Stiff and well-proportioned with a straight posture and flat stomach

May suffer from burnout, premature ejaculation, cramps, liver-related problems, dry skin,...

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CURATED BY

imberly

CURATOR'S NOTE

According to Lise Bourbeau, inner demons stem from five core wounds associated with parental influence. The physical manifestation of these masks can be observed in the body. To cope with the pain, people adopt mask personalities such as withdrawal, dependence, masochism, control, and rigidit

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