The Winners Triangle

1. As victims, people feel hopeless, ashamed, powerless, helpless, and unable to make decisions, enjoy work, solve problems, or achieve goals. They seem to attract bad people and situations
2. Rescuer are the enablers who always want to rescue others. They feel good about themselves by helping victims and ignoring their own issues.
3. Persecutor think they know better and have a right to tell other people what they should do. They are angry, oppressive, rigid, authoritarian, blaming, controlling, and critical.

The winners triangle, has three positive roles:

▫️Victim becomes Vulnerable,

▫️Persecutor becomes Assertive

▫️Rescuer becomes Caring. 

They accept their vulnerability but also understand that they have the abilities to meet their needs and find their way.

They ask for help and accept when offered to empower themselves.

The most important skill they possess is problem-solving. 

In this role, people use their time and energy in resolving issues rather than blaming others.

They are good problem solvers and always find ways to meet their needs without shaming others. 

Rather than imposing the solutions, they show compassion by asking how to help.

This empowers the vulnerable to decide what they want and the caring role can learn to listen and allow others to find their way.