The Victim. The Rescuer. The Persecutor.
- As victims, people feel hopeless, ashamed, powerless, helpless, and unable to make decisions, enjoy work, solve problems, or achieve goals. They seem to attract bad people and situations
- Rescuer are the enablers who always want to rescue others. They feel good about themselves by helping victims and ignoring their own issues.
- Persecutor think they know better and have a right to tell other people what they should do. They are angry, oppressive, rigid, authoritarian, blaming, controlling, and critical.
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