Dhaval Soni's Key Ideas from The Courage to Be Disliked
by Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga

People are not controlled by emotion. They are not controlled by the past

People are not driven by past causes, but more toward goals that they themselves set.

You should arrive at answers on your own, and not rely upon what you get from someone else. Answers from others are nothing more than stopgap measures ; they are of no value.

Its fine to be 'Just as you are'

The important thing is not what one is born with, but what use one makes of that equipment.

Unhappiness is something you choose for yourself. One might say you are lacking in the courage to be happy.

When we try to change our lifestyle, we put our great courage to the test. There is the anxiety generated by changing, and the disappointment attendent to not changing

Unhappiness can not be blamed on your past or your environment. And it isn't that you lack competence. You just lack courage.

The issue is really what sort of meaning I attribute to the problem(height) ; what sort of value I give it. The feeling of inferiority we're suffering from are subjective interpretations rather than objective facts

Value is something that's based on a social context. An inferiority complex is an excuse.

The condition of having a feeling of inferiority is a condition of feeling some sort of lack in oneself in the present situation

Pursuit of superriority - There's a tendency to think of it as the desire to try to be superior to other people; as the desire to climb higher

It is the mindset of taking a single step forward on one's own feet, not the mindset of competition of the sort that necessitates aiming to be greater than other people

It's enough to just keep moving in a forward direction, without competing with anyone. There is no need to compare oneself with others

Everyone is different. Do not mix up that difference with good and bad, superior and inferior. Whatever differences we may have, we are all equal 

We do not walk in order to compete with someone. It is in trying to progress past who one is now that there is value.

Do not think about gaining status or honour. When one is trying to be oneself, competition will inevitably get in the way.

When one is conscious of competition and victory and defeat, it is inevitable that feelings of inferiority will arise. Because one is constantly comparing oneself to others and thinking, I beat that person or I lost to that person. The inferiority complex and the superiority complex are extension of that.

This is what is so terrifying about competition. Even if you're not a loser, even if you're someone who keeps on winning, if you are someone who has places himself in competition, you still never has a moment's peace. You do not want to be loser. So you can't trust other people.

The feeling of inferiority is an issue of value judgement

Why is it that people seek recognition from others ? In many cases, it is due to influence of rewards and punishment education.

We are not living to satisfy other people's expectations