Mr. Paredes's Key Ideas from Acting with Power
by Deborah Gruenfeld

Downplaying power can foster connection and trust.

• Self-deprecating humor and seeking others' input elevate those around you.
• Making others feel valued by diminishing your dominance can build rapport.
• Effective leaders often play power down to show empathy and relatability.

"Playing power down is a way to connect to people and earn their trust."

Using actors' techniques can help us step confidently into new, powerful roles.

• Visualize and adopt the mindset of a character who embodies the traits you need.
• Use props and dress in ways that enhance your confidence and authority.
• These methods make unfamiliar behaviors feel more natural and authentic.

"Using imagination, props, and costumes is an effective way to embody a new role."

In subordinate positions, focus on the group's objectives to earn trust and uncover opportunities.

• Subordinate roles should be seen as essential to the overall mission.
• Prioritizing team success over personal ambition builds credibility.
• Playing a supporting role well can lead to greater responsibilities and trust.

"To play a supporting role well, prioritize the work and the team's mission."

Overcome anxiety in powerful roles by practicing, warming up, and shifting focus away from yourself.

• Rehearse thoroughly to turn new behaviors into habits.
• Use physical warm-ups to reduce nervous energy and calm your mind.
• Focus on others or the environment to divert attention from self-doubt.

"When taking on a bigger, more powerful role, treat anxiety by rehearsing, warming up, and not focusing on yourself."

When you witness abuses of power, it often feels less risky to simply be a bystander. However, your actions will encourage others to do the same if you call out bad behavior despite the personal risks.

So, the next time you see someone abusing their power, put yourself in the role of an actor on the stage, not someone in the audience. Intervene right there and then. If that's not possible, offer your help afterward.