Become Unforgettable: How To Make People Remember You Forever

The circle of influence plays a fundamental role in our society.

It doesn’t matter why people recognize you. But if they do, you can convince some of them to follow your lead.

Also, by peer pressure, the people who follow you will convince others of your worth. Recognition builds up with a compound effect. And soon, you will run for the presidency!

Jokes apart — fame and recognition bring us many advantages. They open up doors we never thought open. And they push you to do great things if you wish.

But all of this recognition has to start somewhere. A circle of influence of one is not a circle — it’s a straight line.

So, how do you convince people?

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I was a nobody a few years ago. And in a few years, everything changed.

• I have a fulfilling career as a software developer.
• I build a network of people who love being around me (a.k.a. I have friends.)
• And I help thousands of people become a better version of themselves (I’m talking about you, my loves)

I built a circle of influence. But it didn’t happen overnight.

It started with the simplest of things — I spoke with people. And I made sure they would remember about me.

The first time I realized the power of my behavior was in my last job interview.

I stunned my interviewer with my flower shirt. And my enthusiasm got me the job, he told me later. Plus, in all three interviews, I remembered everything about what he told me. And I made sure to let him know.

My circle of influence brought me many benefits — both at work and in my private life.

After only one year of work, my boss told me I was doing better than many other colleagues. And that I should continue working like that.

Other people told me I rapidly became the heart of the group. And that I can make people get along faster.

My circle of influence made people perceive me as necessary. And that position gives you many negotiation advantages.

You have the power to influence people’s thoughts. And you can use that power to advance faster in your career or private life.

You can use your influence to decide what to do with your friends. People will see you as more attractive and in command. And you will often have the last say on important decisions.

It all starts with making people remember about you. But how do you do it?

Make people feel important — that’s the secret you are searching for.

People love to think they have control of the situation and can change their destiny. We are the center of the world, and everything revolves around us.

Also, we know that’s not true. Still, we may give everything to feed the attention when anybody notices us.

So, how do you become unforgettable? Make people feel important.

And how can you do that?

You can start with the SHR Method.

The SHR (Seen, Heard, Remembered) Method is a powerful relationship-building tool that can quickly evolve connections.

I’ve been using it for a couple of years. And I love it for its simplicity and efficiency.

You can start using the SHR Method by respecting its three principles when interacting with someone.

Always think about two things when you interact with someone:

• they want to be comfortable
• and they want you to focus on them.

So, don’t use your phone. Stop doing other activities when speaking with them. And be sure they are comfortable talking to you.

• Move to a familiar place.
• Let them know they can tell you anything.
• And take notes to show your interest if they ask for something.

Listening is not enough. It’s only the first step.

Any relationship needs an active interaction — an exchange of thoughts and ideas.

So listen to what people tell you. And then, you can express your ideas or doubts.

• Make relevant questions, and they’ll know you were paying attention.
• Express your doubts, and they will be happy to teach you.
• Agree with them, and they will consider you their ally.

The first two steps will make you connect with many people. But most of these connections will never go deeper if you don’t create any follow-ups.

Most conversations are futile. And they will remain like that. But sometimes, you can use them to improve your relationship.

Any time you refer to a past conversation, people will realize three things:

• You thought about them.
• You care about what they tell you.
• And you can help them.

You become reliable only because you remember what they said. And, in exchange, they will never forget about you.

The SHR Method is practical. But your confidence and body language will take it to the next level.

They say we use 7% words, 38% face and tone, and 55% body language in a conversation. And even if those percentages are inaccurate, your confidence and body language matter.

• Your confidence has the power to align your relationships with your ideas. It will convince people you are right. And they will fall in front of your charisma .
• Your body language says much more than you say with words. It makes people feel safe, trusted, and calm.

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