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The psychological reasons why some people can't stop lying
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Narcissists are often pathological liars
Narcissists lack empathy, so telling the truth does not matter to them. They may not even realize they are lying most of the time, because they are not aware of it.
Don't make an excuse for somebody that lies to you. You don't have to take the blame.
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Compulsive liars are not necessarily bad people
Compulsive liars are often too careless to tell the truth. They don't take the time to think things through.
Although it is really hard to break this habit, they need to learn to control their urge to lie.
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Types of lies
- White Lies. People tell white lies claiming to be tactful or polite.
- Broken Promises. Failure to keep one’s spoken commitment or promise.
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Body Language
While body language cues can offer clues to deceptions, it is often not good enough. More accurate signals are:
- Intentionally leaving out important details.
- If the p...
Ask Them to Tell Their Story in Reverse
The passive process of observing a potential liar's body language and facial expressions to spot lies is limited.
Adopt a more active approach by asking the individual to relate their story in reverse order rather than chronological order.
Trust Your Instincts
People often rely on stereotypical behaviors that are often associated with lying such as fidgeting or shifty eyes. But these signs are simply old wives' tales.
Your first gut reactions might be more accurate than any conscious lie detection you might attempt.
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Daily choices
And we ignore the profound impact these seemingly inconsequential decisions have on our brain and our life.
Little Lies Can Cost You Money
[Researches Argo and Shiv] found that 85% of diners in restaurants admitted to telling white lies when their dining experiences were unsatisfactory (i.e., claiming all was well when it wasn't). The real interesting finding was that diners who told white lies to cover up their dissatisfactions were then likely to leave bigger tips than those who did not.
Lies Tax Your Brain, Cause Stress and Harm Your Body
Consider the polygraph machine. It doesn't actually detect lies, specifically, but rather the signs of stress that accompany telling them.
According to a study, those who were instructed on how to lie less reported improvements in their relationships, less trouble sleeping, less tension, fewer headaches, and fewer sore throats.