How To Read People: 5 Secrets Backed By Research - Barking Up The Wrong Tree

But most of what you believe about body language and analyzing others is based on myth or guesswork, not real research.

So how can you learn how to read people the right way? Let's get answers from experts and studies.

But first we need to understand all the mistakes you're making...

In The Silent Language of Leaders: How Body Language Can Help-or Hurt-How You Lead the author points out a number of common errors people make in reading people:

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So you're taking context into consideration, you're looking for clusters of behaviors, you're getting a baseline and you're aware of your biases. Tall order. Let's make it simple to start...

In reading people, when can you trust your gut?

Good News: your first impressions are usually pretty accurate .

Bad News: whether they are wrong or right, first impressions affect us in a big way and we are slow to change them .

Sam Gosling is about as close to Sherlock Holmes as you can get. He's a personality psychologist at the University of Texas and author of the book Snoop . Here's Sam:

First impressions are often quite helpful but you have to be willing to update them quite rapidly. That's what's very hard to do.

Good News: your first impressions are usually pretty accurate .

Bad News: whether they are wrong or right, first impressions affect us in a big way and we are slow to change them .

Sam Gosling is about as close to Sherlock Holmes as you can get. He's a personality psychologist at the University of Texas and author of the book Snoop . Here's Sam:

So with no tips from me or Sam, and nothing more to go on than a glance, what should you trust your gut about when you first meet someone?

Studies show if someone seems extroverted, confident , religious or conscientious - they probably are. And if they're good-looking, trust your instincts even more. Why?

We all pay more attention to pretty people - and so our evaluations end up being more accurate :

Overall, people do judge a book by its cover, but a beautiful cover prompts a closer reading, leading more physically attractive people to be seen both more positively and more accurately.

And Sam says you can trust someone's visual "identity claims." These are the things someone chooses to display that says something about who they are or how they want to be perceived.

A class ring. T-shirts with slogans. Tattoos. Pay attention to them because they're usually accurate signs. Here's Sam :

Identity claims are deliberate statements we make about our attitudes, goals, values, etc... One of the things that's really important to keep in mind about identity statements is because these are deliberate, many people assume we are being manipulative with them and we're being disingenuous, but I think there's little evidence to suggest that that goes on. I think, generally, people really do want to be known. They'll even do that at the expense of looking good. They'd rather be seen authentically than positively if it came down to that choice.

So we need to focus on unconscious behaviors that aren't easily controlled and convey a clear message.

In Honest Signals: How They Shape Our World , the authors mention one to keep your eye on:

Speech mimicry and behavioral mimicry: Are they using the same words you use? Speaking at a similar speed and tone? Are they sitting the way you sit? Is a subtle, unconscious game of follow-the-leader going on? This is a sign the other person feels emotionally in sync with you. It can be faked but that's difficult to pull off across an entire conversation.

Beyond that, trust people who are consistently emotionally expressive in their body language:

These results suggest that cooperators may be more emotionally expressive than non-cooperators. We speculate that emotional expressivity can be a more reliable signal of cooperativeness than the display of positive emotion alone.

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