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Real But Overlooked Skills Every Functioning Adult Should Master

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Real But Overlooked Skills Every Functioning Adult Should Master
Life is a great teacher — but no one gets a complete set of rules they’ll need for a better life or career. Somehow you’re just supposed to know that building better and meaningful relationships can…

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Hidden skills we should master

There are four overlooked but fundamental skills that can help you thrive in life.

  1. When to trust your gut and when to rely on your rational mind.
  2. Self-control, especially in the age of unlimited distractions.
  3. How to communicate with anyone.
  4. The ability to judge what is true, right, or lasting.

These skills can be acquired with experience and time and can help you achieve success.

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When to rely on your gut and when to use rational thought

  • We rely on intuition when we make decisions without active reasoning. 90% of critical decisions are made using our intuition.
  • When we rely on logic, objectivity, and analysis, we depend on rational decision making.

It is advantageous to master both intuition and rational thought processes. When your choices regularly lead to negative outcomes, you may be unconsciously making decisions from the wrong place.

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Self-control is a superpower

We are addicted to distraction. Distractions are by-products of a problem. It might seem like something outside of you is pulling you away from your goal. In reality, the distraction is on the inside.

Self-control is also inside you. It's the ability to refrain from momentarily rewarding tasks, so you can focus on what really matters. It is up to you to find ways to master your ability to stay focused.

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Roy T. Bennett

“Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity. The greatest problem with communication is we don’t listen to understand. We listen to reply. When we listen with curiosity, we don’t listen with the intent to reply. We listen for what’s behind the words.”

Roy T. Bennett

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How to communicate with anyone

Communication is a skill that takes practice and requires you to invest in understanding others as well as yourself.

Misunderstanding happens when someone doesn't understand you, or you don't pay enough attention to understand them. Better interaction will improve our connection with others.

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The ability to discern what is true, right or lasting

Wisdom is investing for your future, making time for the people you care about, making every life experience a learning one.

Wisdom is applying knowledge to your life in a way that adds meaning to others and yourself. It's putting things in perspective before drawing conclusions. Wisdom requires you to managee your emotions in challenging situations.

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Confucius

"By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.”

Confucius

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We all make bad decisions

While we may not like to admit this, we all are making a lot of bad decisions, be it our personal lives, careers or in our jobs. Here is what research says about making good decisions:

The right information, not more

If there is too much information, we tend to make the wrong decision, and even if our decision is well-researched and considered right, we end up dissatisfied. 

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