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How to Stop Feeling Guilty: 14 Techniques to Try

How to Stop Feeling Guilty: 14 Techniques to Try


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There are many reasons why you might have feelings of guilt. It could be because of an event, situation, or person. 

Some people, for example, have “survivor guilt.” This is when someone who survived an event or situation feels guilty about surviving when others did not. It’s also common to...

Some people feel guilty about a behavior or habit. Other people feel guilty about their flaws. Others may feel guilty for not doing something when they feel like they should have, for example, not defending a friend when they needed you to.   

There are many things that can cause feelings o...

Studies show that negative emotions and thoughts can elevate the stress hormones adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones help trigger your body to respond when you encounter a threat or stressful event. The problem is when high levels of these hormones last too long, you start to become restless ...

Research that studies how guilt affects your mind shows that feeling guilty can affect your mental health and well-being. Feeling guilty increases negative thinking. This can have a bigger impact if you’re already experiencing depression. When you’re in a depressive state and also have feelings o...

When you start having feelings of guilt, you may not even know why you’re feeling guilty. In other cases, you may know why you’re feeling guilty but don’t know how to manage those feelings.

Here are a few tips to help you stop feeling guilty.

  • Accept what has happened.

Nobody can turn back time. If you’re feeling guilty because of a past mistake or event — for instance, if you’re experiencing survivor guilt — you can start accepting what happened and know that nothing you can do can change the past.

  • Apologize if necessary.

When you hurt someone, it can sometimes be hard to apologize. This might be because you’re feeling shame, and this is natural and very common.

But there is no need to wallow in guilt. If you think that you can fix the problem by apo...

  • Understand where you are now and what has changed.

If you’re feeling guilty about something and know what’s making you feel guilty, first recognize that you can’t do anything to change what has happened.

Secondly, understand where you are now and what has ...

  • Reflect on the lessons you’ve learned.

If you’ve hurt someone with your actions, think about the lessons that the consequences can teach you. Let’s say you stole something from a friend. Even if you return whatever you stole and apologize, your friend might stil...

  • Get help if you can’t cope on your own.

Overcoming negative thoughts and emotions takes a lot of willpower and support. Without the support of people you trust, it can be hard to cope with feelings of guilt, shame, anxiety, and other negative emotions. So if you...

  • Do something good.

Doing something good can help you stop feeling guilty. This can be something like helping out in the community or volunteering. 

  • Do something for yourself.

Doing something that makes you feel good inside will replace those guilty feelings with good and positive feelings.

  • Learn something new.

Do something new or try something you have never tried before. Focusing your mind on a new skill can help you think about something other than your feelings of guilt. Create goals and work toward achieving them. Refocus your thoughts on some...

  • Celebrate your small victories.

Be proud of every small achievement you make. Even apologizing for something you’ve done wrong is an achievement in itself. Commend yourself for being brave enough to apologize despite the shame.

  • Turn guilt into gratitude.

You may see guilt as a negative emotion, which leads to other negative emotions. But you can also try turning guilt into gratitude. Studies show that guilt can help you do things that are morally right. Guilt can make you honest. So wh...

  • Don’t be too hard on yourself.

Don’t sabotage yourself by obsessing over a mistake. No one is perfect. Understand that you are human, and we all make mistakes. Once you’ve apologized and fixed your mistake when and where you can, don’t burden yourself with feeli...

  • Grow your self-esteem.

Guilt is associated with shame, and shame leads to low self-esteem. By learning to forgive yourself, you can overcome the guilt and shame. It’s easy to look down on yourself, and these negative thoughts are often driven by feelings of guil...

  • Seek professional help.

If you’ve tried everything you can to stop feeling guilty with no success, remember you can always ask for help. If the guilt is affecting your everyday life and making you feel depressed, talk to a professional. Don’t let guilt take over...

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It's okay to regret, but learning from out mistakes and turning the feeling of guilt into our strength is even more important



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