The 5 Love Languages Summary

Sometimes it can be hard to understand our partners. They do say opposites attract, but at times, it can feel like they are from a different planet! So how do we really connect with them if they are so different?

That's where the 5 Love Languages can have such a powerful impact on your relationship.

The Words of Affirmation love language expresses love with words that build your partner up and make them feel appreciated. Verbal compliments don't have to be complicated; the shortest and simplest praises can be the most effective.

"That dress looks incredible on you!"

"You always make me laugh."

"I love your hair today."

"I'm lucky to have you"

Your partner might have the Acts of Service as their primary love language if their motto is "Actions speak louder than words."

This love language focuses on specific actions that show you care and understand your partner. Cooking a meal, doing the laundry, and picking up their prescription on your way home from work are all acts of service. They require thought, time, and effort.

You should do all these acts with positivity. Doing something purely out of obligation or with a negative tone will not mean as much and can even sometimes hurt your partner.

There are five love languages:

1. Words of Affirmation (compliments, positive feedback)
2. Acts of Service (washing the dishes, doing the groceries)
3. Receiving Gifts (buying flowers, making a gift)
4. Quality Time (going for a walk, weekend trips)
5. Physical Touch (holding hands, cuddling)

This love language expresses love with words that build up your partner. Verbal compliments don't have to be complicated.

• “That dress looks incredible on you!”
• “You always make me laugh.”
• “I love your hair today.”

If your partner has this language of love, words mean a lot. You can go a long way with congratulations and "I love you".

On the other hand, the partner will be upset by negative or offensive remarks and it may take them longer than most to forgive.

Your partner might have this language if their motto is "Actions speak louder than words."

This love language expresses itself by doing things that you know your spouse would like. Cooking a meal, doing the laundry, and picking up a prescription are all acts of service. They require some thought, time, and effort.

There are 5 love languages:

• Words of Affirmation (compliments, positive feedback)
• Acts of Service (washing the dishes, doing the groceries)
• Receiving Gifts (buying flowers, making a gift)
• Quality Time (going for a walk, weekend trips)
• Physical Touch (holding hands, cuddling)

This language of love conveys love with words that build your partner up. Verbal compliments should not be complex. 

• "The dress looks great on you!
• "You really make me laugh." 
• "Today, I love your hair." 

If your partner has this language of love, words mean a lot. 

You can go a long way with congratulations and "I love you". On the other hand, the partner will be upset by negative or offensive remarks and it may take them longer than most to forgive.

If their motto is "Actions speak louder than words," your partner could have this language. 

By doing things that you know your partner would appreciate, this love language expresses itself. Acts of service include cooking a meal, doing the laundry, and picking up a prescription. They need some attention, time, and effort.

The in-love experience does not focus on our own growth nor on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it gives us the sense that we have arrived.

The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love. It is a fact, however, that when we receive affirming words we are far more likely to be motivated to reciprocate.

If we are to develop an intimate relationship, we need to know each other’s desires. If we wish to love each other, we need to know what the other person wants.

Elogio por los logros:

Siempre hay un momento para celebrar las victorias ajenas.

Para que el elogio sea eficaz debe ser específico:

No generan el mismo impacto un elogio general que uno particular y específico.

Centrarse en la personalidad:

Solo se puede conectar verdaderamente, cuando la personalidad está en la ecuación.

Charlas de calidad:

Conversar con las personas realza el valor que se le está agregando.

Experiencias compartidas:

Puede ser un viaje o incluso ir a un evento. Eso demuestra aprecio y tiempo invertido en alguien.

Trabajar en estrecha cercanía física:

Pasar el rato haciendo algo con alguien y que a su vez incluya contacto físico, hace que la confianza se incremente y la comunicación sea más fluida.

Pregunte antes de ayudar:

Ayudar sin preguntar en muchas culturas es de mala costumbre; Para evitar esto, es mejor preguntar con antelación.

Sirva voluntariamente:

No lo hagas por necesidad o por obligación. Siempre que se ayuda hay que hacerlo con una predisposición y amor.

Si va a ayudar hágalo a la manera de ellos:

Imponer nuestra manera de hacer las cosas, solo hará empeorar la situación si la otra persona no lo acepta.

Love creates a climate of security in which we can seek answers to those things that bother us (our marriage).

In the security of love, a couple can discuss differences without condemnation. Conflicts can be resolved. Two people who are different can learn to live together in harmony.

In the presence of love, we discover how to brong the best out in each other.

Los lenguajes del amor de este libro, son un compendio de investigación que detallan aspectos al momento de expresar este sentimiento.

NO SON REGLAS ESCRITAS EN PIEDRA

Existen palabras que bendicen y palabras que maldicen. Nuestra forma de expresarnos con la lengua , habla mucho de nosotros como personas.

Es importante reconocer aquellas palabras que utilizamos y si esas palabras están dando un impacto positivo a los demás.

Hacer cosas juntos es un claro ejemplo de tiempo de calidad. Ya sea tomar un paseo o hablar, constituyen una de las maneras más efectivas de conectar con las personas. La cuestión es aportar eso que no va a regresar al otro, es lo mejor que podemos ofrecer.