Martins Oyekanmi's Key Ideas from The 5 Love Languages
by Gary Chapman

Your partner might have the Acts of Service as their primary love language if their motto is "Actions speak louder than words."

This love language focuses on specific actions that show you care and understand your partner. Cooking a meal, doing the laundry, and picking up their prescription on your way home from work are all acts of service. They require thought, time, and effort.

You should do all these acts with positivity. Doing something purely out of obligation or with a negative tone will not mean as much and can even sometimes hurt your partner.

Receiving gifts love language isn't necessarily materialistic. It just means that a meaningful or thoughtful gift makes your partner feel loved and appreciated. Something as simple as picking up a pint of their favorite ice cream or chocolate after a long work week can make a huge impact. Even a flower can go a long way.

The right gift can show your partner that you listen and understand them, making them feel loved and appreciated.

This love language is all about undivided attention. No smartphone or any distractions. If this is your partner's primary language, he/she will want to be the center of your attention.

This doesn't mean that you can't curl up on the couch to watch Netflix or HBO; it just means that you need to make sure to dedicate time together without all of the distractions.

Every time you cancel a date, postpone time together or aren't present during your time together, it can be exceedingly hurtful to your partner as it can make them feel like you care more about other things or activities than them.

The Physical Touch love language can often be confused for purely being sexual. But in fact, it is more about intimacy. To people with this love language, nothing is more impactful than the physical touch of their partner. Some feel more connected and safe in a relationship by holding hands, kissing, cuddling, hugging, etc.

If Physical Touch is your partner's primary love language, they will feel unloved without physical contact. They want to feel you close by, not just emotionally but physically. All of the words and gifts in the world won't change that.