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Finding Courage by Accepting Vulnerability

How a "loser" became a "winner"

"I decided to stop hiding and acknowledge what had happened... I showed my scars and let it be known to everyone that I was accepting reality. By showing my vulnerability it seemed that society, for the most part, put the negativity to rest. While the pain was still there, it was much more dim. I showed myself and others that I accepted myself as a human being who is not perfect and makes mistakes and sometimes fails miserably. This was the beginning of my healing." -  Jordan Williamson

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It is basically uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.

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Daring greatly

... is about showing up and being seen, about owning our vulnerability and understanding it as the birthplace of courage.

Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both.

  • What’s keeping you out of the arena? Can you name the fear? Where do you want to be braver?
  • Figure out how you’re currently protecting yourself from vulnerability:  Perfectionism, Cynicism, Control etc.
Jordan Belfort's life

... was modelled by Leonardo DiCaprio in the 2013

Lessons from the real Belfort
  • The importance of thinking big. "Belfort thinks very big, he talks in very big numbers."
  • The dangers of instant gratification. "people say ‘well instead of an inch how can I get a mile,’ and often times they’ll sacrifice honesty, integrity, whatever it is within their moral compass that will allow them to get there quickly.”
  • Most people will go through a disassembling.“If you aren’t experiencing pain you don’t question reality and seek different ways of going about things.”
  • Whatever it is that disassembles is typically linked to our highest values. For example, if money is of the highest value in your life, as it was for Jordan Belfort, the ego around money must dissolve. Same goes for relationships, or whatever you value most in life.