Turn regret into motivation

Acknowledge how you cope with regret: ignoring it makes it more present
Stop the regrets spiral, until you are ready to face the situation with more clarity
Revisit the story and identify practical lessons you can learn from it
Treat yourself like your ideal mentor would
Ask yourself why you feel regret and work backward to identify the values that are tied up in your feelings
The cure for anticipating regret isn’t feeling lousy or overthinking, but pursuing solutions, using the wisdom gained through self-reflection.

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6 Steps to Turn Regret Into Self-Improvement

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Principles for Making Better Life Decisions

It will be perfect. Because not only will the hall itself be a bad decision, but anyone who ever attempts to visit it will clearly be making a bad decision as well. Inside the hall, we will have exhibits for all of the worst decisions ever made.

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Our emotions are short-term biased

Our emotions are obsessed with the present moment because it’s difficult to look past our immediate fears and anxieties. And this prevents good decision-making.

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“Risky” behavior you should consider

Propose “moonshot” ideas, knowing that 90% of them will get shot down, but that if one of them gets accepted, it will be a huge boost to your career.
Be excessively bold in your dating life, stating exactly who and what you want.
Buy difficult books expecting that most of them won’t be useful to you, but also that, occasionally, one will completely change your life.
Say yes to every invitation knowing that most of the events/people will be boring, but that occasionally you’ll meet someone really interesting.

Optimizing life for fewer regrets

Most of us are afraid of messing thing up. But we rarely ask, “Would I regret that failure?” If the answer is “no,” then that is absolutely a risk you should pursue.

Sometimes, the right decision becomes crystal clear when put into these terms.

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Regret Minimization Framework - AgileLeanLife

Sometimes you have to make hard decisions in life. Maybe you have to decide whether you should quit your job and start your own business, end a relationship or maybe move to another country. Big decisions like that are the ones you have to make completely by yourself.

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