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6 Steps to Turn Regret Into Self-Improvement
Turn regret into motivation
- Acknowledge how you cope with regret: ignoring it makes it more present;
- Stop the regrets spiral, until you are ready to face the situation with more clarity;
- Revisit the story and identify practical lessons you can learn from it;
- Ask yourself why you feel regret and work backward to identify the values that are tied up in your feelings;
- The cure for anticipating regret isn’t feeling lousy or overthinking, but pursuing solutions, using the wisdom gained through self-reflection.
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