Self-sabotage
Self-sabotage involves behaviors or thoughts that keep you away from what you desire most in life. It’s that internal sentiment gnawing at us, saying “you can’t do this.”
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Self-destructive behaviors can become habits and can continually undermine your success and happiness.
Self-sabotage is when we want something, but somehow we never accomplish it, because somewhere deep in our subconscious we’re fighting against that goal:
- Our disorganization distracts us.
- We’re constantly overthinking all of our decisions.
- Procrastination. Start setting deadlines and mini-deadlines to work toward your objective.
- Negative self-talk/negative thinking. Be patient with yourself; be kind to yourself. Work to build yourself up.
- Perfectionism. It is an impossible standard that keeps you from moving forward.
Self-destructive habits are often rooted in our feelings of self-worth.
Work on identifying and acknowledging what is causing you to sabotage yourself, and then start making changes to stop those behaviors.
The most successful people are those who take the time to think through their choices, decisions and actions.
Successful people learn from what worked or failed to work. They then adjust their course of action by taking a different approach.
Put aside those harsh inner voices of "I can’t" or "I’m a failure."
That negative internal dialogue is a pattern of self-limiting thoughts. Start replacing that critical inner voice with positive, encouraging thoughts.
In every moment, we’re taking action that either moves us toward or away from the person we want to be and the life we want to have.
Consider how the actions you’re taking and the thoughts you’re thinking conflict with your happiness and hold you back from your true potential. Then look for ways to replace old patterns with new ones that are more helpful in achieving your goals.
If you’re disorganized or constantly getting off track from what you should be doing, take five minutes every morning to tidy your desk and write a to-do list.
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Set regular goals, break big goals down into smaller milestones.
Ask yourself at the end of each day, “What did I do well today?” and, “How can I improve on this tomorrow?”
In order to stop the self-sabotage, have a look at the below four steps:
- get to know and understand why you feel the need to self-sabotage
- once you have identified that need, check out ways you can fill it without having to involve self-sabotage
- if you have already found the proper alternative, think about ways to identify and overcome possible obstacles
- build up tolerance when dealing with unpleasant feelings
- make sure you really know your values and goals
- Use project to-do lists to outline every step involved in a particular project.
- Shrink relatively unimportant tasks to the bare minimum required for getting them done.
- Try “last things first.” Sometimes the typical final steps in a task are easier to start with than the typical first steps.
- Pretend you’re going to outsource a task and write the instructions you’d give someone else.