You may have hurts, emotional pain, and shortcomings. Learn to <a href="http://tinybuddha.com/blog/accept-yourself-as-you-are-even-when-others-dont/">accept yourself </a>, shortcomings and all, even if your family and previous partners may have berated you about your inadequacies.Focus on your many positive qualities. Focus on your strengths, your abilities, and your admirable traits. Let go of harsh judgments, comparisons to others, and self-hatred.When you can see yourself as the soulful and divinely inspired person you are, the damaging internal dialogue doesn’t hold up.

1. Be kind to yourself.

Learn to embrace solitude and allow yourself to be mindful of your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs about yourself.In the alternative, periods of introspection, silent meditations, journaling, and sharing your feelings with supportive friends may help you be more aware of who you are.

4. Embrace yourself.

﻿“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

Try loving and positive affirmations. Nourish your soul through a love-kindness meditation or spiritual practices that help you feel compassion and love toward yourself.Once you feel vibrations of self-love or the peace of <a href="http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-change-your-mind-and-your-life-by-using-affirmations/">positive affirmations </a>, try to be in that place of love throughout your day.Infuse this love with your interactions with others in your life.

2. Feel the love within you and be that love.

The love you’re sharing with others in the form of service will help you feel more love and fulfillment in your life.You’ll realize you don’t need someone else to feel complete any longer. You’re complete.A relationship will only make you shine brighter and bring more love in your life. Happy reading!

Remember

“When you’re grateful for the things you have, no matter how small they may be, you will see those things instantly increase.﻿”

When you think about kindness toward others and being love to others, you open the door to divine love.Find ways to do small and large tasks to assist those living in your house, neighborhood, or community. Practice conscious acts of kindness and giving.

6. Give yourself in service to others .

“I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted and behold, service was joy.”

Rhonda Byrne, author of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1451673442/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1451673442&linkCode=as2&tag=tinbud-20">The Magic </a>, shares with us a powerful way to change all of our relationships and our life.Byrne encourages us to <a href="http://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-start-a-gratitude-practice-to-change-your-life/">practice gratefulness </a>and regularly count our blessings.She encourages you to write out the following sentence for ten items you’re grateful for everyday.“I am truly blessed to have _____________, because _____________(why?).”

5. Be grateful.

Be willing to embrace your imperfections and excuse your bad days. Don’t set such high standards for yourself emotionally and mentally. It’s normal to feel sadness and pain and to hit some low points in life.Allow yourself to embrace these emotions without <a href="http://tinybuddha.com/blog/do-you-judge-the-person-you-used-to-be/">judging yourself </a>for them.

3. Give yourself a break.

You too may have been unloved or shown love in unhealthy ways. Here are some tips on loving yourself first before searching for love in your life.