The Best Way to Ask for Help (And Actually Get It)
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When we ask for help, we tend to unconsciously add unnecessary details that enhance our image, justify or even state a request instead. When asking for help, take the bass out of your voice, the stiffness out of your spine, and the captain out of your industry and just say, with sincerity and humility: "Can you help me?"
Few people, especially face-to-face, will ever say "no," even a stranger.
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