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The 9 Superpowers of Your Smile

The Shadow of Your Smile

  • Trying to avoid negative emotions just to appear youthful or thin or even eternally positive can eventually have a psychological cost.
  • Other people can detect a fake smile. Try to make your smile real for yourself.
  • A smirky smile when you’ve beaten others in a contest will not help you win friends and influence people.
  • Some smiles are associated with discomfort or uncertainty about what to do in a difficult situation. “grin and bear it”
  • In some parts of the world, smiling can be judged as suspicious, shallow, naive, or a sign of dishonesty.
  • Smiling can come across as submissive in certain situations. 

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The 9 Superpowers of Your Smile

The 9 Superpowers of Your Smile

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What a smile can accomplish

  • Smiling can make you look younger and thinner.
  • Smiling elevates your mood and creates a sense of well-being.
  • One smile can generate the same level of brain stimulation as up to 2,000 bars of chocolate.”
  • Even a forced smile can lead to a mood boost.
  • Smiling makes you seem courteous, likable, and competent.
  • Smiling is contagious. YOU can light up a room if you enter smiling.

The Shadow of Your Smile

  • Trying to avoid negative emotions just to appear youthful or thin or even eternally positive can eventually have a psychological cost.
  • Other people can detect a fake smile. Try to make your smile real for yourself.
  • A smirky smile when you’ve beaten others in a contest will not help you win friends and influence people.
  • Some smiles are associated with discomfort or uncertainty about what to do in a difficult situation. “grin and bear it”
  • In some parts of the world, smiling can be judged as suspicious, shallow, naive, or a sign of dishonesty.
  • Smiling can come across as submissive in certain situations. 

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It is important to balance the appearance of authority and warmth.

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