Toxic Positivity: Invalidation (cont.)
It doesn’t just respond. It says you’re wrong to feel the way you do. It tells you how you should feel. It tells you how you should express your thoughts and feelings. It also tells you when, and where. It trivializes your experience by comparing it to people who “have it worse.” Sometimes there’s a cursory preface that says, “I know you’re angry, but …”
The point of invalidation isn’t to have a dialogue, or to get you to see things from their perspective. It’s to make you feel guilty. It’s to make the conversation about your mistakes.
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