Self-compassion is being willing to look at your mistakes or failures with kindness and understanding—without harsh criticism or defensiveness.
Most of us believe that we need to be hard on ourselves to perform at our best, but it turns out that a dose of self-compassion when things are at their most difficult can reduce your stress and improve your performance, by making it easier to learn from your mistakes.
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Thinking Big Picture about the work you do can be very energizing in the face of stress and challenges because you are linking one particular, often small action to a greater meaning or purpose.
Something that may not seem important or valuable on its own gets cast in a whole new light.
Every time you make a decision, you create a state of mental tension that is, in fact, stressful.
The solution is to reduce the number of decisions you need to make by using routines. If there's something you need to do every day, do it at the same time every day. Have a routine for preparing for your day in the morning, and packing up to go home at night. Simple routines can dramatically reduce your experience of stress.
Interest doesn't just keep you going despite fatigue, it actually replenishes your energy. Keep in mind:
To the tasks on your to-do list, add a specific when and where to each. Try the if-then planning (or the "implementation intentions").
For example, "Remember to call Bob" becomes "If it is Tuesday after lunch, then I'll call Bob." This enables you to seize the critical moment and make the call, even when you are busy doing other things.
If-then plans can help us control our emotional responses to stress. Simply decide what kind of response you would like to have instead of feeling stress, and make a plan that links your desired response to the situations that tend to raise your blood pressure.
For example, "If I see lots of emails in my inbox, then I will stay calm and relaxed," or, "If a deadline is approaching, then I will keep a cool head."
The idea that it's the "small wins" that keep us going, particularly in the face of stressors.
It can be enormously helpful to take a moment and reflect on what you've accomplished so far before turning your attention to the challenges that remain ahead.