<ol><li>Stay calm. If you lose your temper – you lose.</li>
<li>Use facts as evidence for your position.</li>
<li>Ask questions. </li>
<li>Use logic to undermine your opponent.</li>
<li>Appeal to worthy motives that are hard to disagree with.</li>
<li>Listen carefully.</li>
<li>Be prepared to concede a good point. </li>
<li>Study your opponent. You can appeal to their higher values or exploit their weaknesses.</li>
<li>Look for a win-win. Be open-minded to a compromise position.</li>
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<ol><li>Get personal. Attack the issue, not the person. </li>
<li>Get distracted by new and extraneous themes. </li>
<li>Water down your strong arguments with weak ones.</li>
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Don’t

<ol><li>Use punchy one-liners, like: That begs the question. That is beside the point. You’re being defensive. Don’t compare apples and oranges.</li>
<li>Ridicule and humiliate your opponent. This can be very effective in front of an audience.</li>
<li>Deliberately provoke your adversary until they lose their temper and so the argument.</li>
<li>Throw in diversions that deflect the other person from their main point.</li>
<li>Exaggerate your opponent’s position and then show how ridiculous and unreasonable the exaggerated position is.</li>
<li>Vigorously denounce each of your opponent’s arguments as fallacious but just select one or two that you can defeat to prove the point. Then assume that you have won.</li></ol>

Sneaky Ways to Consider

They are very different from a debate in front of an audience.<ul><li>You are trying to win over the other person, so look for ways of building consensus and do not be belligerent in making your points.</li><li>In front of an audience, you can use all sorts of theatrical and rhetorical devices to bolster your case and belittle your adversary.</li></ul>

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