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7 Ways To Let Go Of Insecurity In Your Relationship

Stop feeling paranoid over nothing

Avoid the temptation to snoop your partner’s phone, Facebook messages, or email account. 

While this could temporarily calm your nerves when you see nothing afoul, it is also a behavior that could quickly become addictive, not to mention damaging for relationship trust.

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7 Ways To Let Go Of Insecurity In Your Relationship

7 Ways To Let Go Of Insecurity In Your Relationship

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/7-ways-let-insecurity-your-relationship.html

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It's not all about you

A self-centered worldview will have you chasing boogeymen where they don’t exist. 

Stop psycho-analyzing every word choice your partner makes and be more present in the moment so you can notice the message behind their tone, physical presence, and posture. Obsessing with hidden meanings is a sure-fire way to miss the point.

Stop psyching yourself out

Have you ever found thinking negative thoughts like, “I know they’ll get sick of me someday,” or, “How could they love me?” 

These thoughts have little to do with reality but a lot to do with fear.

Stop lugging around all that baggage

A little baggage is totally okay, but you need to lighten your load before jumping into any new relationship.

Let go of any left-over hurtful feelings that might be lingering and realize that your new relationship is a new opportunity to put all of that behind you.

Stop seeing things in black and white

When someone blames you for something that you don’t think is your fault, you probably get defensive.

If you have a problem, don’t immediately point the finger, but instead approach your partner with compassion and understanding. Be comfortable in the fact that neither of you is fully “right” or “wrong.” The true answer lies somewhere in the middle.

Stop feeling paranoid over nothing

Avoid the temptation to snoop your partner’s phone, Facebook messages, or email account. 

While this could temporarily calm your nerves when you see nothing afoul, it is also a behavior that could quickly become addictive, not to mention damaging for relationship trust.

Uncomfortable conversations

Don't put them off. While conflict is stressful for your relationship in the short-term, it will build the strength of your relationship in the long-term.

Never mince words with each other and you will develop trust so strong that you can tell your partner anything that is on your mind.

Take care of your inner-house

Just like you shouldn’t invite a friend to your home while it’s a disorganized wreck, you shouldn’t invite a partner into your life while it is in disarray. 

Take care of your inner-house before you invite anyone else to it.

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Pull out your yoga mat, tie up your running shoes or pump some iron—whatever works for you and feels good for your body.

Drink enough water

Avoid getting dehydrated, especially when you drink a lot of coffee in the office. 


Bring a big mug and fill it at the water fountain, or bring a few big bottles of water with you to the office. Sip throughout the day, and you might notice you get fewer headaches!

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We want to become a part of our partners. We want to know their thoughts, history, beliefs, the way they see the world. We want to give the people in our lives things because in doing so we are becoming a part of their lives and therefore owning a piece of their history.

All these things revolve around you as a lover. You are all that really matters in the equation.

Loving an interpretation

You love people for the way they look and act. You love them for the way you interpret that person, but your interpretations may not always be accurate and may change over time.

If you can learn to have better control of those interpretations, and the person doesn't stray too far from the outline you've created of him or her, you can happily own them until the day you die.