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7 Ways To Let Go Of Insecurity In Your Relationship

Take care of your inner-house

Just like you shouldn’t invite a friend to your home while it’s a disorganized wreck, you shouldn’t invite a partner into your life while it is in disarray. 

Take care of your inner-house before you invite anyone else to it.

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7 Ways To Let Go Of Insecurity In Your Relationship

7 Ways To Let Go Of Insecurity In Your Relationship

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/7-ways-let-insecurity-your-relationship.html

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It's not all about you

A self-centered worldview will have you chasing boogeymen where they don’t exist. 

Stop psycho-analyzing every word choice your partner makes and be more present in the moment so you can notice the message behind their tone, physical presence, and posture. Obsessing with hidden meanings is a sure-fire way to miss the point.

Stop psyching yourself out

Have you ever found thinking negative thoughts like, “I know they’ll get sick of me someday,” or, “How could they love me?” 

These thoughts have little to do with reality but a lot to do with fear.

Stop lugging around all that baggage

A little baggage is totally okay, but you need to lighten your load before jumping into any new relationship.

Let go of any left-over hurtful feelings that might be lingering and realize that your new relationship is a new opportunity to put all of that behind you.

Stop seeing things in black and white

When someone blames you for something that you don’t think is your fault, you probably get defensive.

If you have a problem, don’t immediately point the finger, but instead approach your partner with compassion and understanding. Be comfortable in the fact that neither of you is fully “right” or “wrong.” The true answer lies somewhere in the middle.

Stop feeling paranoid over nothing

Avoid the temptation to snoop your partner’s phone, Facebook messages, or email account. 

While this could temporarily calm your nerves when you see nothing afoul, it is also a behavior that could quickly become addictive, not to mention damaging for relationship trust.

Uncomfortable conversations

Don't put them off. While conflict is stressful for your relationship in the short-term, it will build the strength of your relationship in the long-term.

Never mince words with each other and you will develop trust so strong that you can tell your partner anything that is on your mind.

Take care of your inner-house

Just like you shouldn’t invite a friend to your home while it’s a disorganized wreck, you shouldn’t invite a partner into your life while it is in disarray. 

Take care of your inner-house before you invite anyone else to it.

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Have enough sleep

Sleep deprivation causes us to be foggy-headed and unable to make good decisions in the short term. And in the long run, it has a slew of bad effects on our health.

Slee...

Exercise

Exercise gives us a rush of endorphins and gives a boost to our good mood.

Pull out your yoga mat, tie up your running shoes or pump some iron—whatever works for you and feels good for your body.

Drink enough water

Avoid getting dehydrated, especially when you drink a lot of coffee in the office. 


Bring a big mug and fill it at the water fountain, or bring a few big bottles of water with you to the office. Sip throughout the day, and you might notice you get fewer headaches!

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Listen To Yourself

If you are in pain in any way or something makes you uncomfortable, that means something is not right. Figure out why.

That "something" could be a choice to change your life but most oft...

Identify The Root Of Problems

Once you know where it began, you can realize that you perhaps adopted the wrong idea about yourself based on what you thought was true in the moment.

If you struggle with low self-esteem, for example, imagine the first time you felt ashamed of yourself. Think about what made you feel that way and why. This is the only way you can truly rectify it.

Take Care Of Yourself

... in the practical ways:

  • Go for wellness checks
  • Make dentist appointments
  • Prioritize sleep
  • Eat well and often
  • Wear weather-appropriate clothes and shoes that you're comfortable in
  • Connect with people who make you feel loved
  • Save some money
  • Have your own back before you expect anyone else to.

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Take a Shower

Anecdotal evidence links shower to creativity.

So maybe when the status quo response to some circumstance just isn’t working, try taking a shower.

Study Another Industry

Pick some media from different industries. You may find that other industries have problems similar to yours but maybe they were solved in a different way.

You may also find new linkages between your own industry and another, linkages that may lead to innovative partnerships in the future.

Learn About Other Religions

Religions are a way for us to understand our relationships with the supernatural and with each other. Learning how such relations are structured can teach you a lot about how people relate to each other and the world around them.

Seeing the reason in other religions can also help you develop mental flexibility.

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Perfectionism

It can either propel you into serious action or paralyze your ability to accomplish even the most basic tasks.

Often, those who struggle with perfectionism have issues giving up control. In ...

Accept the outcome

If you’re struggling with the thought of submitting a task that you feel is less than perfect, create a list of the worst-case scenarios.

Ask yourself what's the worst that can happen. You'll most likely find out that the only negative aspect is the continuous rumination that'll keep you from finishing other important work.

Shifting your perspective

The positive side of perfectionism is the idea that you possess the motivation and a level of detailed attention that is unmatched by many.

The trouble happens, though, when you get so caught up in the details that you fail to see the bigger picture.

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What it takes to love someone

We all want to share our lives with another person. The compassion, intimacy, and understanding that comes with love give life a special meaning.

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Love is selfish

We want to become a part of our partners. We want to know their thoughts, history, beliefs, the way they see the world. We want to give the people in our lives things because in doing so we are becoming a part of their lives and therefore owning a piece of their history.

All these things revolve around you as a lover. You are all that really matters in the equation.

Loving an interpretation

You love people for the way they look and act. You love them for the way you interpret that person, but your interpretations may not always be accurate and may change over time.

If you can learn to have better control of those interpretations, and the person doesn't stray too far from the outline you've created of him or her, you can happily own them until the day you die.

Balance
Balance

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The proble...

Alignment

Creating a joyful and fulfilling life isn't about balance, but about Alignment. An Alignment of our lives can:

  • Clarify our values and priorities.
  • Remove any noise or distraction of other's expectations.
  • Help us find the flow in life.
  • Make us let go of things that cause friction.
  • Bring order to life, rather than just trying to be everywhere, doing everything for everyone.
Taking Responsibility for our Life

Most of us have been bought up to behave in a certain socially acceptable and normal way, and we simply stick to the script and 'fit' ourselves in a certain mold, living a stereotyped life.

We need to take responsibility for creating a life that makes sense for us, as we are the authors of our own lives.

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Keep the conversation going

If you are planning your first date with somebody, make sure to pay a special attention to the topics you want to engage in throughout the date. Keep the conversation smart and the exchange of experiences alive.

Shape your mindset

When going on a first date, make sure your mindset is a positive one, no matter what your previous dating experiences felt like. Embrace the fear of a possible failure while hoping for a pleasant outcome.

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“Keystone” Habits

The primary keystone habit is regular exercise. People who exercise habitually start changing other unrelated patterns in their lives, even unknowingly. They eat better, use their credit car...

Do the most important things first

Willpower is limited. It is highest early in the day but decreases as we make more decisions. Most self-control failures happen at night.

Do the most important things first. As the day goes on it will only get harder to face big challenges.

Don't Use Willpower

Research shows we don’t use much willpower when something is a habit.

Build new habits by manipulating your environment so as to make what you should do easy and what you shouldn’t do hard. Remove the cookies from eyesight and put your running shoes next to the bed.

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