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Create a life you love and learn to appreciate your uniqueness.
Many social issues come from a low sense of self-worth. This causes your conversations to suffer before they begin.
Connecting with friends means letting them to know you and vice versa.
Talk about yourself, disclose your life facts, opinions and feelings. This way, you have have subjects to talk about and you form lasting bonds.
If you don’t know who you are, you can’t truly connect. You won’t get across what you’re about to others.
That’s why it’s important to have a firm grasp on your strengths, weaknesses, opinions, interests, etc.
Being in the present moment is one of the most important traits of improving social skills.
By paying attention to what’s going on, you catch the details you can use later in the conversation.
Having a topic or two in mind can help when you’re running low on things to say.
Good topics are usually light (not politics, religion, etc.) and either funny or opinion provoking.
To get better you need to get out there, consistently practice conversation skills, make mistakes and learn from them. There is no other way.
Making good conversation implies mastering the technique of asking the right questions, in the correct order, in a proper tone.
The purpose is to get to know the other, without making it feel like an interrogation.
Turning something upside-down, whether physically or just by re-imagining it, can help you see new patterns.
The brain has pattern-making habits that may obscure other, more subtle patterns at work; changing the orientation of things can hide the more obvious patterns and make other patterns emerge.
Wearing headphones says, “Please don’t talk to me, I don’t want to be bothered.” This is great when you don’t want your coworkers to interrupt you, but it’s terrible when you want to connect with people.
Putting away the headphones (or taking out the AirPods) opens you up to more social interactions. Plus, you’ll notice new sonic details such as the song of a particular bird or the hum of different passing vehicles. Your experience of the world will be richer overall.