Healthy vs Unhealthy Ruminations

It’s not productive. Healthy reflection leads to new insights and behavior change. Unhealthy rumination keeps going and going without actually resulting in any benefit.
It’s compulsive. Healthy reflection is deliberate and intentional: you’re thinking about the past for a specific reason and for a specific amount of time. Unhealthy rumination, on the other hand, is something you just find yourself doing—like a bad habit (which it is!)

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Worry As Illusion Of Control

Worry is fundamentally different than effective planning and problem-solving.

By definition, worry is unhelpful thinking about negatives in the future. Planning and problem-solving can be difficult because they’re negative, but they lead to results—they’re productive and ...

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Reassurance-seeking Can Kill Your Self-confidence

Reassurance-seeking is essentially outsourcing the hard work of managing difficult emotions to someone else.

If you habitually shirk the responsibility of managing your own painful emotions, you’re telling your brain that you can’t handle them yourself.

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Summary

If you want to trust yourself more, learn to identify the habits in your life that are interfering with self-trust and work to eliminate them:

Dwelling on the past
Worrying about the future
Trusting your emotions
Perfectionism
Procrastination

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Perfectionism: The Quest To Feel Perfect

Perfectionism isn’t about doing perfect, it’s about feeling perfect.

Most perfectionists will freely admit that their excessive standards for achievement are totally unrealistic. But they keep holding themselves to them… Why?

Because deep down

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It’s not productive. Healthy reflection leads to new insights and behavior change. Unhealthy rumination keeps going and going without actually resulting in any benefit.
It’s compulsive. Healthy reflection is deliberate and intentional: you’re thinki...

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Don't Always Trust Your Emotions

Culturally, we tend to put emotions up on a pedestal and romanticize them. But in reality, they are just one of many aspects of the human experience—not any more special or authoritative than any other mental capacity like sensation, perception, or logical thinking.

Remember:

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