Reassurance-seeking Can Kill Your Self-confidence

Reassurance-seeking is essentially outsourcing the hard work of managing difficult emotions to someone else.

If you habitually shirk the responsibility of managing your own painful emotions, you’re telling your brain that you can’t handle them yourself.

I mean, why would your brain trust you if that’s the message it’s getting all the time?

Obviously, there’s nothing wrong with leaning on other people for emotional support sometimes. But if you do it to the exclusion of working through things yourself, it’s a setup for low self-trust.