Control

The need to control everything and everyone around us is nothing more than a defense mechanism. We use it to confront something that at we see as a threat.

Having low self-esteem, huge insecurity, a negative self-image, an inability to process emotions like anger, sadness, or frustration: these often form a lethal cocktail where psychological uncertainty desperately looks for a quick fix.

Faced with their inability to control and deal with all these things, the person focuses their energy on others. “I’ll control you and everyone else so you’ll fit into to my black-and-white world.”