The need to control

There was a study in 2009 by the psychiatrists Friese and Hoffman on the topic. They discovered that people with little ability to self-regulate end up looking for “everything or nothing” relationships.

That is, their impulsiveness, their hunger to be “fed,” doesn’t accept excuses. And they’ll be even less capable of seeing or empathizing with other people’s needs. 

When a controlling person wants something, they don’t ask, they demand.