MORE IDEAS FROM THE ARTICLE
Turn the situation inward and analyze your triggers and reactions to these situations.
Separate the facts from your assumptions.
Separate yourself and your reactions from the negative emotions you may be feeling in the moment.
Ask yourself two simple questions when you feel you’re being treated badly or unfairly.
Viewing the world through the lens of the person who triggered you. It doesn’t mean sacrificing your own point of view but rather widening your perspective.
Sometimes your worst fears about another person turn out to be true. She invariably takes credit for your work. When this occurs, begin with this question:
It is all about breathing. Slow, deep breathing actually triggers something at the bottom of your spine called the Vegus nerve, which sends neurotransmitters to the brain that actually calm you down.
Take a moment to reflect on how you feel. Ask yourself questions about how you can respond to a difficult person, or how you can create a good outcome from the situation.
Have a clear sense of self, what causes you tension and where your limits are.
Take care of yourself.
By modeling well-being practices, you not only do good for your own mind and body, but you eliminate second-hand stress for all those around you.
We are social creatures who desire validation. We feel good when others share our belief system. But we feel dejected when others do not value our inputs, crush our ideas, or ignore what we have to say.
These difficult people act in undesirable ways and give us permission to pass judgement and offload responsibility by blaming them for undesirable outcomes.
Don't try changing people, try understanding them.
When you try to change someone they tend to resent you, dig in their heels, and get worse. The way to disengage a difficult person is to try understanding where they are coming from.
Through questions others can better process what’s happened, and it allows you to clarify and solidify details of the conversation.
If you aren't sure that the other person fully comprehended the conversation, ask clarifying questions to check their understanding.