Realistic optimism

It is all about breathing. Slow, deep breathing actually triggers something at the bottom of your spine called the Vegus nerve, which sends neurotransmitters to the brain that actually calm you down.

Take a moment to reflect on how you feel. Ask yourself questions about how you can res...

Sometimes your worst fears about another person turn out to be true. She invariably takes credit for your work. When this occurs, begin with this question:

• Regardless of how I feel about what’s happening right now, how can I grow and learn from this experience?

Turn the situation inward and analyze your triggers and reactions to these situations. 

• How do you react to a difficult person in your life?
• How does your difficult person react to your reactions?
• If the other person is the problem, are you growing unhealthy acti...

Have a clear sense of self, what causes you tension and where your limits are.

• Seek to understand the situation. Gain some clarity by asking questions while managing your own reactions.
• Stick to the facts and acknowledge emotions. 
• Paraphrase and ch...

Viewing the world through the lens of the person who triggered you. It doesn’t mean sacrificing your own point of view but rather widening your perspective. 

Ask yourself:

• What is this person feeling, and in what ways does that make sense?
• Where’s my respon...

Take care of yourself.

By modeling well-being practices, you not only do good for your own mind and body, but you eliminate second-hand stress for all those around you. 

Separate the facts from your assumptions. 

Separate yourself and your reactions from the negative emotions you may be feeling in the moment.