The long lens

Have a clear sense of self, what causes you tension and where your limits are.

• Seek to understand the situation. Gain some clarity by asking questions while managing your own reactions.
• Stick to the facts and acknowledge emotions. 
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• The Perfectionist. If you are looking for quick results, perfectionists can be a source of frustration.
• Control freaks. When you want to do things your way, overly controlling types can be a source of irritation as well.
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Ask yourself two simple questions when you feel you’re being treated badly or unfairly.

• What are the facts in this situation?
• What’s the story I’m telling myself about those facts? What do I really want as an outcome?

Take care of yourself.

By modeling well-being practices, you not only do good for your own mind and body, but you eliminate second-hand stress for all those around you. 

Turn the situation inward and analyze your triggers and reactions to these situations. 

• How do you react to a difficult person in your life?
• How does your difficult person react to your reactions?
• If the other person is the problem, are you growing unhealthy acti...

Separate the facts from your assumptions. 

Separate yourself and your reactions from the negative emotions you may be feeling in the moment. 

Viewing the world through the lens of the person who triggered you. It doesn’t mean sacrificing your own point of view but rather widening your perspective. 

Ask yourself:

• What is this person feeling, and in what ways does that make sense?
• Where’s my respon...