Learn more about personaldevelopment with this collection
How to ask open-ended questions
How to avoid awkward silences
How to show interest in others
3 Expectations of friends
There are three expectations of a close friend that people describe and value across the entire life course.
- Somebody to talk to
- Someone to depend on
- Someone to enjoy
The beautiful, special thing about friendship is that friends are friends because they want to be, that they choose each other and can choose to get in, and can choose to get out.
107
321 reads
MORE IDEAS ON THIS
Friendships
- In childhood, friends are mostly other kids who are fun to play with
- In adolescence, there’s a lot more self-disclosure and support between friends, but adolescents are still discovering their identity, and learning what it means to be intimate.
- During young...
101
320 reads
Levels of maintaining a relationship
- Just keeping a relationship alive. Saying “Happy Birthday” on Facebook, having a friend’s tweet—these are the life support machines of friendship. They keep it breathing, but mechanically.
- Keeping a relationship at a stable level of closeness. Being able to write a mess...
90
407 reads
Friendships are unique relationships
Unlike family relationships, we choose to enter into friendships. And unlike other voluntary bonds, like marriages and romantic relationships, they lack a formal structure.
You wouldn’t go months without speaking to or seeing your significant other (hopefully), but you might go that...
86
367 reads
Related collections
Other curated ideas on this topic:
Why you need friends
Friendship helps protect the brain and body from stress, anxiety and depression. Being around trusted others, in essence, signals safety and security,
Research suggests that you only need between four and five close pals. Close friends should be someone you can talk to, someone you can d...
Treat it like a long-distance romance
The pain of seeing your friend leave helps to reinforce how much they mean to you.
It can be helpful to talk about your hopes or expectations about how often you'll talk, or when you'll see each other. Talk about the value of your friendship.
Make (and keep) new friends
The most important aspect of developing a new friendship is to show up.
- Decide that you're going to make friends and then put yourself in situations where you can find friends. Take a class or join a club.
- Make a point to follow up if you found someone you want as a frie...
Read & Learn
20x Faster
without
deepstash
with
deepstash
with
deepstash
Personalized microlearning
—
100+ Learning Journeys
—
Access to 200,000+ ideas
—
Access to the mobile app
—
Unlimited idea saving
—
—
Unlimited history
—
—
Unlimited listening to ideas
—
—
Downloading & offline access
—
—
Supercharge your mind with one idea per day
Enter your email and spend 1 minute every day to learn something new.
I agree to receive email updates