Practicing The Subtle Art Of Detachment
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Attachment and control
With attachment comes a very strong urge to control the circumstances.
You put yourself at risk by investing so much of yourself into something, unwilling to believe that there is a tiny chance that it might not quite work out the way you plan.
Passion and attachment
Feeling too much passion and attachment towards something can skew our perception of it.
And that's risky because it can make us unwilling to see the flaws in our plan.
Detachment from material goals
When you detach yourself from the compulsion of owning things just for the sake of owning them you begin to experience real freedom and joy from things that really matter.
By clearing the clutter from our lives, we can all make room for things that truly add value: health, relationships, passion, growth, and contribution.
Detachment in relationships
Most of us misunderstand love to be all about holding on to the other person, trying to fix them and taking care of them in all ways possible.
We need detachment to not take personally other people's reactions, to not seek outside validation and to draw boundaries so that others don’t control us.
Detachment from your experiences
Life is meant to be lived and to not to be over-analyzed.
So learn to see the lessons from an experience and move further in life with new wisdom and. Don't carry the bitterness, guilt and regret over the past experiences - they will spoil your present days.
Detachment from your work
It means that you do not rely on work alone to give you a feeling of completeness and to provide meaning to your life.
Detachment from your own thoughts
Don't act upon your thoughts and feelings. They are not the ultimate truth or reality.
Detachment from thoughts allows you to see your thoughts from an outside perspective, letting them come and go without allowing yourself to feel too much about them.
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See life as it is, without all the ideals and fantasies you’ve been preoccupied with.
The vast majority of our struggles are self-created, and we can choose to overcome them in an instant.
Fearing judgment from others
Tying your self-worth to everyone else’s opinions gives you a flawed sense of reality because people judge us based on a pool of influences in their own lives that have absolutely nothing to do with us.
We need to learn from the past, but also to be ready to update what we learned based on how our circumstances have changed.
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Think big, act small
Never let anything hold you back when you think of ideas.
You’ve got nothing to lose. Just make sure you act small. Put in the work and stay practical.
Problems are unanswered questions
Every time you experience stress over a problem, you’re basically sabotaging your life.
A problem is nothing but an unanswered question. So stay calm. And figure out the answer.
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Loneliness is a perception issue
Loneliness has more to do with our perceptions than how much company we have: it is just as possible to feel very lonely surrounded by people as it is to be content with little social contact.
“Loneliness, longing, does not mean one has failed but simply that one is alive.”
Dealing with loneliness through creativity
One way people have always dealt with loneliness is through creativity. By metamorphosing their reality into art, lonely people throughout history have managed to interchange the sense of community relationships could foster with their creative outputs.
The artist Edward Hopper (1882–1967) is known for his paintings of American cityscapes inhabited by closed-off figures who seem to embody a vision of modern loneliness.
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