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Practicing The Subtle Art Of Detachment

Simone Weil
“Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be obtained only by someone who is detached. ”

Simone Weil

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Practicing The Subtle Art Of Detachment

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Attachment and control

With attachment comes a very strong urge to control the circumstances.

You put yourself at risk by investing so much of yourself into something,  unwilling to believe that there is a tiny chance that it might not quite work out the way you plan.

Passion and attachment

Feeling too much passion and attachment towards something can skew our perception of it.

And that's risky because it can make us unwilling to see the flaws in our plan.

Detachment from material goals

When you detach yourself from the compulsion of owning things just for the sake of owning them you begin to experience real freedom and joy from things that really matter.

By clearing the clutter from our lives, we can all make room for things that truly add value: health, relationships, passion, growth, and contribution.

Detachment in relationships

Most of us misunderstand love to be all about holding on to the other person, trying to fix them and taking care of them in all ways possible.

We need detachment to not take personally other people's reactions, to not seek outside validation and to draw boundaries so that others don’t control us.

Detachment from your experiences

Life is meant to be lived and to not to be over-analyzed.

So learn to see the lessons from an experience and move further in life with new wisdom and. Don't carry the bitterness, guilt and regret over the past experiences - they will spoil your present days.

Detachment from your work

It means that you do not rely on work alone to give you a feeling of completeness and to provide meaning to your life.

Detachment from your own thoughts

Don't act upon your thoughts and feelings. They are not the ultimate truth or reality.

Detachment from thoughts allows you to see your thoughts from an outside perspective,  letting them come and go without allowing yourself to feel too much about them.

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As losing resources is more likely to cause burnout than gaining resources is to mitigate it, dealing with the negative aspects is more beneficial than using positive “band-aid” fixes. You want to drive down uncertainty and inefficiency to ensure that you aren’t doing unnecessary tasks and minimize your emotional exhaustion. To do that:

  1. Create a chart and place your major goal at its top, followed by layers of very specific subgoals needed to attain the major goal.
  2. Find and fix the inefficiencies in your goal hierarchy.
  3. Determine the attainability of each goal.
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  • Impaired concentration/ forgetfulness
  • Loss of appetite
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  • Increased illness
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  • Shortness of breath
  • Dizziness
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Self-created struggles

See life as it is, without all the ideals and fantasies you’ve been preoccupied with.

The vast majority of our struggles are self-created, and we can choose to overcome them in an instant.

Fearing judgment from others
We fear the judgments of others, even though their judgments about us are rarely valid or significant.

Tying your self-worth to everyone else’s opinions gives you a flawed sense of reality because people judge us based on a pool of influences in their own lives that have absolutely nothing to do with us.

Past experiences
In many ways, our past experiences have conditioned us to believe that we are less capable than we are.

We need to learn from the past, but also to be ready to update what we learned based on how our circumstances have changed.

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Helen Keller
“People don’t like to think, if one thinks, one must reach conclusions. Conclusions are not always pleasant.”
Helen Keller
Think big, act small

Never let anything hold you back when you think of ideas.

You’ve got nothing to lose. Just make sure you act small. Put in the work and stay practical.

Problems are unanswered questions

Every time you experience stress over a problem, you’re basically sabotaging your life.

A problem is nothing but an unanswered question. So stay calm. And figure out the answer.

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