Because You Said It, I'm Not Going To
You think of doing something nice like helping your parent wash dishes, but right at that moment your parent asks you to do them. How'd you feel?
Atleast in your mind, you'd be saying “I was going to. But now that you’ve asked me to, I don’t want to anymore.”
This was a classic example of psychological reactance.
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