When your beliefs refer to an ambiguous “they, ” there’s a good sign that they’re manufactured and not real. Statements like, “They’ll never give me a shot, ” or, “They’re going to know I’m too…, ” are good examples.

Look Out For “They” Language

Desperation can drive you to push constantly against the boundaries constraining you. But, to avoid burning out, it may be better to tackle your limitations in pulses, with adequate time to reflect and recover between each bout of intense effort.

Build In Recovery Time

It can be beneficial to find a role model and engage in some healthy imitation. Done well, it can give you some confidence.You shouldn’t copy everything about the person. But notice how they act and try mimicking their successful habits until you can adapt them to your own style.

Fake It ‘Till You Make It

Here's the tough but empowering truth: chances are really good that many of the barriers holding you back from achieving your full potential in life are self-imposed. As I've reported here on Inc.com before, the Navy SEALs call this reality " the 40 percent rule."