Saying 'no': How to use the Hourglass method
- At the top of the Hourglass, begin by noting the flash response you initially had to the request: Yes or no? Write down whatever you felt like saying in the moment.
- Next is the critical consideration phase, in which you pause to examine three things: Your motives, your history, and your future.
- Ask yourself if you are enthusiastically accepting an opportunity you want or, conversely, people-pleasing, operating on fear or kissing up. If you're seeking the feeling of being needed, liked or gaining visibility —own that truth.
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