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Fear of Judgement

Fear of Judgement

You’re afraid of the judgments of others (which can lead to nervousness, hesitation, over-thinking, and social anxiety).

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MORE IDEAS FROM 15 Types Of Approval-Seeking Behavior

Putting Others First

You have a strong habit of putting others’ needs ahead of your own, thinking it is selfish to do otherwise.

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Fear of Upset

You’re often afraid that others are secretly angry or critical of you, even though they seem to like you when you’re together. This can lead to a constant background unease that you may have “done something wrong” that someone is upset about.

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Attempting to Impress

You try to fit in to groups by pretending to be interested in things you are not, or exaggerating about your experiences, wealth, or achievements. All submission to peer pressure is approval seeking.

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Submissive Body Language

You demonstrate submissive body language, such as looking away frequently or keeping your eyes down.

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Overly Agreeable

You smile, nod, and are very agreeable with others (regardless of your actual opinions on the subject).

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Habitual Apologies

You’re quick to apologize out of habit, even for minor transgressions, like starting to speak at the same time as someone else.

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Pressure to Entertain

You feel pressure to have something great to share, such as a funny or highly engaging story about an adventure you’ve had.

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Difficulty with Endings

You have difficulty ending things, from conversations to friendships to romantic relationships. As a result, you may drag things out longer than you really want to.

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Avoiding No

You avoid saying no to others. You fear they will become upset or think you’re a bad person, so you usually say yes, even if it adds more stress to your life.

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Conversational Replays

During an interaction, you experience self-consciousness and doubt about how you are coming across. You imagine you should be someone “better” than you are. Afterwards, you replay the interaction in your mind and find all the things you did wrong, ways you may have upset the other person, and things you should have said.

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Nervous Laughter

You’re quick to laugh at whatever another person says, even if it’s not that funny. Your laugh might come too quickly, too often, or at inappropriate times.

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Avoiding Disagreement

You avoid disagreeing with others, challenging others, or stating alternative perspectives.

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Hesitation

You often wait for the “right thing” to say (and thus speak way less than you normally do).

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Not Stating Desires

You rarely state what you want directly. Instead, you may suggest or imply something and hope the other person detects it. You often question your desires and think they might be either too much or not worth asking for.

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1. Become aware of your actions

The first step to stop seeking approval of others is to become aware that we are stuck on doubt, insecurity, or uncertainty. We must recognize that our actions (of seeking approval) comes from the emotions and beliefs that arise within us.

Once you become aware of how often you're seeking approval from others, you can begin to work on yourself from within.

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Research has shown that social rejection activates many of the same brain regions involved in physical pain, which helps explains why disapproval stings.

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It is a psychological phenomenon that reflects the belief that you’re an inadequate and incompetent failure despite evidence that indicates you’re skilled and quite successful.

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