At the moment that you're in a position to make a decision that may be unpopular to the people you're working with you may think that it's wiser to not show any vulnerability, however, not showing vulnerability makes it easier for them to vilify you and your decision.
You need to make people see that you're working with them on a cognitive level AND on an emotional level. By admitting that that was a difficult decision to make, you become human again.
People make impossible decisions every day, even ones that someone -- somewhere -- will hate, regardless. There is not always an obvious answer but decisions still need to get made. With all the swirling anxiety and frustration in the air these days, it’s easy to become a target of convenience for a whole lot of rage.
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Regardless of what your decision will be some people will still blame you -- even for the things that you can't control. In order to protect your sanity, you need to distance yourself from conflict, even just a little, every day.
This could mean writing in a journal and meditating but for others, it could be praying and eating too much. It's really up to you how you'll do it as long as you set boundaries with total transparency.
It's difficult to think under stress and we aren't designed to do it. It's best to be prepared for situations like this.
You need to develop muscle memory that you can use without having to think of it. To do so, try having to role-play conversations with someone you trust that they'll take you seriously when you do this exercise.
We can't deny that drama surrounds us everywhere we go. We can see it on social media or on television and despite of our best intentions to not get involved, we can't seem to avert our attention away from it.
From a biological standpoint, we are hardwired to love the novelty, the constant stimulation that the drama provides. However, drama does not lead us towards meaningful lives and it keeps us from the stillness and reflection and deep conversation that make our lives meaningful.
Chances are you’re being hired to fill a void and address current challenges that have been highlighted to you.
Do not make the mistake of coming to the table with a pre-determined plan based on these challenges. Take the time to learn the challenges and the extent of them for yourself. Encourage your team to be completely open with you.
We are social creatures who desire validation. We feel good when others share our belief system. But we feel dejected when others do not value our inputs, crush our ideas, or ignore what we have to say.
These difficult people act in undesirable ways and give us permission to pass judgement and offload responsibility by blaming them for undesirable outcomes.
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