Make Them Feel Like You "Get" Them - Deepstash

Make Them Feel Like You "Get" Them

People want to be understood and accepted, so you want to be empathetic to them and their experiences as best as you can. Finding commonalities is key to developing emotional connections:

  • Don’t over-share or ask questions that are too personal.
  • Ask them how they feel about things or what they care about in life.
  • Drop the facades and show vulnerability.
  • Show humility, and try to be agreeable without going against your own beliefs.


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