Emotionally Driven / “Shoulds” Driven / Self-criticism

Those driven by too many “shoulds” can go too far in the other direction. Rules run their lives. They can seem rigid with their black and white thinking and may feel guilty for breaking the rules. Because the rules are usually inherited from others, running our life this way often keeps us out of touch with our deeper needs and wants.

Finally, self-criticism is the bully who beats us up when we break the rules. Rather than enjoying our life, we spend much of our time trying to stay out of trouble with ourselves.