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How to Be a More Positive Person, According to Experts | Time
Savor the good
Noticing and savoring the pleasant moments and thinking, "Wow, this is really great "can strengthen positive emotions.
In general, we tend to dwell on the negative side and not notice the positive things we experience.
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Reframe or divert
The first step in approaching a negative situation with an optimistic outlook is to accept what you can’t change.
Once you’ve done that, you have 2 options: reframe ( look for an opportunity instead of ruminating on the loss ) or divert (shift your focus to something else).
Savor the good
Noticing and savoring the pleasant moments and thinking, "Wow, this is really great "can strengthen positive emotions.
In general, we tend to dwell on the negative side and not notice the positive things we experience.
Set reminders
Write yourself a message on a sticky note and attach it to your computer screen at work (an inspirational quote, a reminder to smile, etc).
Small reminders like these help keep positivity front and center in your life.
Do something nice for someone else
One of the fastest, most effective ways to feel happier is to show someone kindness.
In a 2017 study by Oxford University, researchers found that performing acts of kindness for just seven days had a measurable, positive effect on well-being and positive social emotion.
Phone a friend
Most optimists have strong, supportive relationships. The comfort of knowing you don’t have to do everything by yourself contributes to long-term happiness.
You don’t have to have a lot of them, but you have to have around you people you trust and trust you back.
Say thanks
Thinking about what you’re grateful for can instantly improve your mood.
It works because our interpretation of events influences our emotions more than the events themselves.
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Find your WHY
Highly motivated people ask themselves: WHY do I do what I do?
If you know WHY you do what you do, and it matters deeply to you, then you will find your strength in any situation.
Your beliefs about what’s possible
Many people don’t really lack motivation, they lack models of what’s possible - they have limiting beliefs of what’s achievable.
That’s why inspirational stories and role models can be so powerful: they open our eyes to a whole new realm of possibilities.
Change your limiting beliefs
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For example, we might tell ourselves: "That’s not me; I can’t do that; or, I’m not good enough."
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