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The First Steps Toward Creating a Life You Love

“My goal is to build a life I don’t need a vacation from.”

Rob Hill Sr.

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The First Steps Toward Creating a Life You Love

The First Steps Toward Creating a Life You Love

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“My goal is to build a life I don’t need a vacation from.”

“My goal is to build a life I don’t need a vacation from.”

Be authentic

Make choices leading to the life you want to create for yourself. Don't let your past hold you back. 

Your life might not seem to be the best fit for someone else, but it should a life you are happy with. Create a life you love.

How to create an authentic life

Start where you are right now. 

  • Align your life with your own core values - those things that are most important to you personally. Regular meditation will help you discover what those are.
  • Find time to do the activities you loved doing as a child. Join an activity group or take a class. 
Listen to yourself and take action on what you discover.

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