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The First Steps Toward Creating a Life You Love

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The First Steps Toward Creating a Life You Love
"My goal is to build a life I don't need a vacation from." ~Rob Hill Sr. The other day I had an interesting conversation with a friend, who asked me the question "Who is the happiest person you know?" Ask yourself this question now. It's difficult to answer, isn't it?

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Creating the life you love

Creating the life you love

Make choices leading to the life you want to create for yourself. Don't let your past hold you back.

Your life might not seem to be the best fit for someone else, but it should a life you are happy with. Create a life you love.

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How to create an authentic life

Start where you are right now.

  • Align your life with your own core values - those things that are most important to you personally.
  • Find time to do the activities you loved doing as a child. - join an activity group or take a class.

Listen to yourself and take action on what you discover.

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