The past does not have to be an obstacle in your life.
Recognize the undesirable ways your past is affecting your present behavior. Teach yourself to act differently and to think about the kind of person you want to be.
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Identify what you want to change about your life. It can help you focus on the promises you're making to yourself.
Try to focus on one change at a time.
When you start to visualize your life in the way you want it to be, things can start to move in that direction.
What do you already have that brings you closer to your vision?
Try to think about the experiences that truly make you happy and engage with them as often as you can until they are wired into your brain.
Try to set goals for yourself. Imagine that you have already achieved that goal in the future. This process helps you visualize yourself in your changed lifestyle.
Focus on yourself and do not worry about what other people are going to think.
People will always base their opinions on what worked for them. Don't follow the choices of other people if they don't work for you.
Fear will hold you back from reaching your dreams.
Don't be afraid to make mistakes. The only way you will ever know if you made the right choice is by simply making a decision, to begin with.
Let your loved ones know what you are trying to accomplish. They can influence and help you when they know why and how you are changing your life for the better.
Match the other person's physical mannerisms and energy level, and you'll notice how well they'll respond to it. You don't need to agree with what they say or do, the mirroring itself can increase your likability.
You can also mirror the qualities that you find likable in others. You don't need to copy them, but learn their secrets, try them on and adapt them until they fit you.
Whether it’s emotional, philosophical, interpersonal, or professional growth, people are not growing at the same pace.
Some people move light years if you don't talk to them for a couple of months, and others have stayed more or less the same for 3, 4, 5 years or longer.